My husband feels NO responsibility for using birth control! EDIT added

[calusari]

I am 42, we have six kids, and yet I constantly have to "make" him put on a condom. I don't take the pill because it makes me sick, he has talked about getting a vasectomy over the years but has never actually put forth any effort to make it happen, and when I talked about getting my tubes tied, he said that I shouldn't because it was major surgery.

I am so tired of being the only adult in this relationship sometimes!

EDIT: For everyone who says I should just schedule the vasectomy for him, he says that he has to be at a certain weight before he will do it, or he'll have to be put under (which he doesn't want to do).

           For everyone who says that I should take care of the birth control method myself, you're missing the point...why should everything be my responsibility? I am serious when I say that I am responsible for almost everything that goes on in our house, our lives. Expecting him to take on the simple chore of using a condom is very little to ask.

[rayroe2]

 .....i dont get why you would get on a other bc there are plenty out there besides the pill, I know couples use condoms but I feel like in a marriage why do you need a condom? when they make plenty of other bc did you want 6 kids? or did you end up having kids from him not using a condom? don't know if that was already asked

[Innocencedreams]

I'm sorry, that's not right or fair. We used NFP, so only condoms, and only when I'm fertile, but he always knew when that was, and I never had to ask for a condom. He needs to accept responsibility for birth control

[conejoazul]

I´m not much a fan on getting tubes tied or vasectomies, and condoms are a detractor in sex IMO. Have you considered getting a fertility monitor or using ovulation tests and just avoiding sex during your fertile days?

http://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/fertility-monitor.html

[ajb2750]

I finally talked my husband into the snip last week. I used money...I got a quote from the doc for $500 for the vasectomy, and told him that would be less than six months of BC pills. As an added incentive, I told him he is not getting any until he does it. When the urologist's appt was over, he was like, "Wow, if I would've known it would only take fifteen minutes, I would have done this years ago!" Assholes. Oh-and I called the doc for him. Don't wait on him to do it...

[ballerina18]

If he is not willing to deal with birth control then you need to take control yourself!

Learn how to track your cycle, use basil body temperature, and ovulation predictor kits to learn exactly the time of month when you can get pregnant and then just don't have sex during that fertile window. If you know your cycle then you will have a lot more control over when/if you want or don't want to get pregnant.

[jesistar6910]

Tube tying is not a major surgery. 

If he won't put on a condom, then don't have sex with him. He'll get the hint quickly enough. 

[TurtleSquish]

Maybe he wants more kids...did you all agree there should be no more?

[Marimaru]

I'd probably tell him I wasn't going to remind him again, and the next time he was trying to get any without having a condom ready, tell him "we're done" and go to bed.

[xo.MommyW.xo]

I wouldnt be having sex with him then

[piratepixie]

My ex husband thought that birth control was the devil and got mad when he found out I was on it. He wanted more kids I didn't, NOT with him anyways!some guys cant take the hint no do they want to do anything as simple as stick a condom on! I would look into the essure or a IUD