My husband feels NO responsibility for using birth control! EDIT added

[calusari]

I am 42, we have six kids, and yet I constantly have to "make" him put on a condom. I don't take the pill because it makes me sick, he has talked about getting a vasectomy over the years but has never actually put forth any effort to make it happen, and when I talked about getting my tubes tied, he said that I shouldn't because it was major surgery.

I am so tired of being the only adult in this relationship sometimes!

EDIT: For everyone who says I should just schedule the vasectomy for him, he says that he has to be at a certain weight before he will do it, or he'll have to be put under (which he doesn't want to do).

           For everyone who says that I should take care of the birth control method myself, you're missing the point...why should everything be my responsibility? I am serious when I say that I am responsible for almost everything that goes on in our house, our lives. Expecting him to take on the simple chore of using a condom is very little to ask.

[celestegood]

 I agree.  I had to choose our birth control, but I made dh part of that decision.  He isn't the one who is pregnant, gives birth, or breastfeeds the baby.  So, I made the choice of what to take, and listened to dh when he said what he thought.

No one partner is 100% in control of what method of birth control is used. 

Quoting JSVDP:

So just wondering, why is it ONLY up to your husband to prevent it? If you don't want to do anything on your end how can you expect him to do something on his? Seems like it should go both ways.

 

[ArmyWife1315]

tell him snip it or wrap it!

[TLIF1281]

They are currently working on other forms of birth control for men. 

[karamille]

Look up ESURE.  Super easy sterilization done in office. 

http://essure.com/?gclid=CLi-2cPT07ACFbEBQAod8V950A

[casanderson1]

Make an appointment for him to get snipped, and tell him your taking him to lunch and then yell surprise when you get there lol  :)

[aimesnyc]

It sucks, but I can't blame him.  I hate having sex with condoms myself.  It's not pleasurable for me or my husband.  There are, on the other hand, many other birth control options aside from the pill.  There is even more than one pill.  I personally use NuvaRing and am very happy with it.  Although how he's acting sucks, sometimes you just have to take the reigns.  Surely there's something out there that doesn't make you sick.

[Mrs.Kubalabuku]

Paraguard.  Copper IUD, hormone free, lasts 10 years, can be removed if you do want another one.

It sucks feeling like the only adult, but if that's how it is, that's how it is. 

[mommyjenn84]

If I wasn't willing to use birth control and he wasn't willing to use condoms, I'd make an appt to talk to my Dr about my tubes. Period

[foxysugarlove]

Tell him someone has to use BC or no sex. Pills had bad side effects for me too so I went with the IUD.

[calusari]

I already anticipate a possible prolapse, considering how many children I have and the fact that my mom had to have surgery for it as well.

It just makes sense to use the least invasive birth control method, which to me is condoms!

Quoting organicyogalove:

Getting your tubes tied, getting a vasectomy, all has problems. You have a much higher risk of having a uterine prolapse around menopause if you get your tubes tied, like wise the male has a ton of life long struggles and symptoms getting snipped. Look it up, do your research people.