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Very delicate topic, need advice.

Posted by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:12 PM
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So my guy isn't the cleanest of guys. He works on a grill so he gets pretty smelly... and he doesn't shower very often. He also smokes, which adds to the issue.

He doesn't always, but sometimes he neglects brushing his teeth and I don't kiss him open mouth unless he has. 

I'm at my wits end hugging and sharing a bed with a smelly dude. How do I tell him to shower more without coming off as a huge bitch and hurting him? =[


Please no bashing, he wasn't like this our entire relationship. Actually in the beginning he made it a point to smell good for me.

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by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:12 PM
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angelbabies11
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:16 PM
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Just say, "Honey I enjoy cuddling and kissing you but I would enjoy it so much more if you showered and brushed your teeth more often." And tell him you're not trying to hurt his feelings but just being honest. Good luck! :)
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KristyCat
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:18 PM


Quoting angelbabies11:

Just say, "Honey I enjoy cuddling and kissing you but I would enjoy it so much more if you showered and brushed your teeth more often." And tell him you're not trying to hurt his feelings but just being honest. Good luck! :)

That sounds good, actually. I'd be more inclined to shower WITH him (as an incentive) but I hate my 6 months pregnant body right now so I'm a little insecure at this point. =\

You know, unless showering with the lights off wasn't totally dangerous lol

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lil_mama06
by Bronze Member on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:19 PM
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Offer to take a sexy shower..It's VERY stimulating...

angelbabies11
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:21 PM
That would be a great idea!!! I'm sure he's not bothered my your pregnant body. And I bet he would even take you up on the offer! A pregnant body is a beautiful thing! :)

Quoting KristyCat:


Quoting angelbabies11:

Just say, "Honey I enjoy cuddling and kissing you but I would enjoy it so much more if you showered and brushed your teeth more often." And tell him you're not trying to hurt his feelings but just being honest. Good luck! :)

That sounds good, actually. I'd be more inclined to shower WITH him (as an incentive) but I hate my 6 months pregnant body right now so I'm a little insecure at this point. =\

You know, unless showering with the lights off wasn't totally dangerous lol

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lucky2Beeme
by Silver Member on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:22 PM

shower with him after work ?

LexRi0709
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:22 PM
Just tell him! Dh has horrible night sweats. Its bad. Sometimes I wake up and almost vomit. I have to change our sheets every 2 days because of it. I tell him he needs to shower before bed, and when he gets up. A lot of times he won't shower before bed. I used to sleep on the sofa a lot. Now he works nights so he's only home 3 or 4 nights a week.
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randomosityblog
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:26 PM
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Oh gross I'd be like dude, you smell like ass, get in the shower! lol But that's just the type of person I am.

aidenmommy2011
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:31 PM
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 Talk to him.

Shower with him. Make it fun, soap him up and then let him soap you up. Use a good scented soap (like a man soap on him, Dove makes a good one) and then after the shower cuddle to him and tell him how much you love the way he smells after a shower. Keep telling him how good he smells and that you really like it and maybe give him a little sex, after tell him that he smelled so good that you couldn't resist. Maybe the praise and reward will make him want to smell good for you always. kwim

Mommavieve
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:33 PM
If my DH stinks I just tell him, "Dude, you need a shower."
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MissElissa21
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 7:36 PM
Me too!

Quoting randomosityblog:

Oh gross I'd be like dude, you smell like ass, get in the shower! lol But that's just the type of person I am.

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