I think that after reading a lot of posts and replies I feel like a lot of Cafe Moms really don't value men, even their husbands. Let me be clear upfront, my children are my world, I want the best for them at all times but I don't think being a good mom means that I can't be in a good relationship. It seems that some women think there husband exists to life heavey objects, pay bills and take over for her when he comes home for work.
What do we as women really want? There was a post about the 50's style wife the other day and we can pretty much agree that those standards are insane but should we abandon being wives (or girl friends or domestic partners) all together? Shouldn't the adult relationship in our lives share space with mom priorities?
I had a terrible relationship with my ex husband, fighting, arguing, we could do anything together and my kids suffered for it. Now I'm with some one I love, who respects me and values my dd as his own. We're expecting in September and he worries more about my daughters being jealous or feeling left out then I do. I don't have to worry bc he's aware and the girls are a huge priority for him so I don't have to stress over how he'll act kwim? I can't help but feal that my dd are better off in a house with two adults who love and care for each other. We make time for one another, hell we can barely keep our hands off each other. My kids catch us kissing and the may say "Ewww!" but they are smiling and often run over to hug us. The happiness of my relationship and the love that we share makes my kids lives better. I don't see how you can be giving your kids the best life possible when the adults fight and bicker like children, are stressed, don't talk and function as room mates on the best days.