To make a long story short, my boyfriend told me last week that he needs some time. Think he might be doing the mid life crisis thing. He is currently staying at his mom's, but we are talking. We are suppose to meet for lunch tomorrow while he is on his lunch break. We have to do it this way because he works the early day shift and I work a middle shift. Anyway I thought I would suprise him with a picnic, so we could spend the whole time together just the two of us. Do anyone have any ideas of what I should bring. The weather is suppose to be very warm, so I was thinking more along the lines of cheeses, and meats, dessert and maybe sparkling juice... Any ideas would be greatly appreciated...
I would take this opportunity to develop relationships and interests that do NOT include him. He is moving on, do not be left in the dust, move on also. You will never meet your future husband if you are burdened down with a guy who will not commit to you. Let him loose and become free so you can meet eligible partners who will value you and WANT to commit to you in a permanent relationship
so true, move on, stop trying to anaylize everything he says. he is making it clear that he doesnt love you and doesnt wanna be with you right now. You deserve someone who does wanna be with you, committed, puts you first and sincerely loves you. So ignore his calls, his texts, his fb messages and put your energy into something else. the right guy will come along, usually when your least expecting it.
* that bastard is trying to make the cake and eat it too!
Quoting shinybright:
I would take this opportunity to develop relationships and interests that do NOT include him. He is moving on, do not be left in the dust, move on also. You will never meet your future husband if you are burdened down with a guy who will not commit to you. Let him loose and become free so you can meet eligible partners who will value you and WANT to commit to you in a permanent relationship
lucky to have the best husband in the world
Truthfully he has told you what he wants at this point. You deserve to come first and he isn't capable of doing that at this point. He is only leaving those things to have a fall back. Don't give him that security.
I call this the 180. You ignore his wants and needs and focus on only your wants and needs.
Yes it could help him realize he only loves and needs you. More than likely he will just move on and you need to be able to move on as well.
I'm sorry :( I know that really hurts. Everything these ladies have said is good advice.
Pack his things in a box, and i mean everything. He probably did meet someone else, but is holding you by a string just in case things don't work out with that other person. Move on, go out with friends, keep yourself busy. The same thing happened to me, except we had a child together. It was hard at first, but i eventually met someone and we have now been married for 8 years. As for my ex, he did remarry, but now regrets ever leaving us. Like the saying goes, "you snooze, you lose". Be strong and pray for God to send you a good man.
Dh and my argument today made me so mad, and realized he is lazy
- bubbles72
on Jun. 19, 2012 at 5:03 PM