What would you do?

[wajohnson]

So my husband and I have been seperated for 7 months with little communication..... but we've been going to marriage counseling for 3 months. He has some criminal history (from way before we met) and today I found out that is continuing. The thing that irritates me is that he's lied to me multiple times now. And all throughout our marriage.

Today I'm in the shower, when I hear the doorbell. ( I live with my parents right now). My dad happen to answer the door and is talking to 3 people. I didn't even think too much of anything because I didn't recognize the vehicles outside. I was trying to listen to the conversation from inside because I heard my husbands name.

My dad comes back in after about 10 minutes. Tells me that they police are looking for my husband.

OK now for a back story for you to get an idea. 2 summers ago, my husband got 2 jets is from work for a really great deal. Or so he said. He ended up selling them.

So the police are now looking for him because apparently when he sold the jets is, he didn't give the guy any titles for the vehicles and they signed some written agreement. But when he signed the agreement, he signed with a different name. So when the cops came over today, they were asking for this different name and my dad was like "I remember the sale and everything, but that's not my son in laws name. " Needless to say everything that happened with that was the nail in the coffin for me.

So what would you do? It's been lie, after lie, after lie since after the first year of marriage. I'm really irritated, because now I've really lost all trust in him. I need some advice ladies.

[2lilmamas]

 Thats a tough situation. I know as a wife you want to supportive but it seems like he is not quite ready to change. It looks like he is willing to risk it all and in the end he may have to pay the consequences.

[littlecheifsmom]

yeah, based off of what is told here, i dont think i personally would put up with this crap!

i say this because, i wouldnt want to be in egg shells of what is next?, or am i going to be his next target to  steal from with my name on it? will i be held legally responsible if it were to happen? type of things. i wouldnt want to live always looking over things, and hoping its not a lies. or even jail time for him. but thats me.

its a tough call, because i havent lived in your shoes. i dont know your marrigae or what you live with.

if i were you, write out all your worries, concerns and pros and cons of everything. and when you go to you next meeting  talk about it. put it all out on the line and see what comes of it.

to me it sounds like you want to move on, and not be apart of this mess. but at the same time you dont want to give up?

best of luck

[BaileynMe]

I would have a hard time with continuing lies. He would have to come completely clean, of his own accord, before I felt there was any possibility that I might trust him again. Otherwise I would always wonder.

[earthangel1967]

 I couldn't be with someone I couldnt trust. And it doesnt sound like he is improving either.