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porn...spin off

Posted by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:06 PM
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I've noticed quite a few women say they'd rather have their s/o look at porn than go off and cheat. It it possible that a lot of the women that "don't mind it" allow it because they think it will stop their husbands from screwing other women.

Why is it when a women on here says she isn't ok with it...or says her s/o doesn't look she is called a liar or a woman with low self esteem? Got news for ya all men don't look at porn...and you don't have to be OK with it...some men are perfectly happy acting out their fantasies with their wife and ONLY their wife. Some men think porn is disrespectful.

I hate the typical answer " guys are visual so its ok"....so because guys are visual its ok for them.to jack off to whatever they want and women just have to deal...well women are more emotional and are more turned on by the actual act so are guys supposed to be OK with women cheating? I just don't get it....
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starreyedcutie
by Bronze Member on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:08 PM
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And just because in a marriage there is not porn doesn't mean the husband isn't allowed to masturbate...believe it or not porn isn't NEEDED to get off
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Apr1l
by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:09 PM
Bump, interesting question
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Lizzys_mommy13
by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:12 PM
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I don't find it ok for my husband to look at and/or fantasize about another woman at all. Thats *MY* preference. If he wants a woman, he has one right here. If he wants the right to jack off to someone else or screw around with someone else, all he has to do is tell me. I'll go down and get the paper work done. There is a lot to my reasoning for it that I am not going to go into, but lets just say I wont put up with the emotional bull shit anymore. 
That said, if I looked at another man to get my pleasure he would be pissed. I respect that. I deserve the same respect from him.  

MamaHome
by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:20 PM
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Thank you OP!

I am neither lacking in self esteem or a prude, and I can't stand porn. Call me old fashioned, but I don't think my husband should need to get off thinking about fucking another woman. Its a physical reaction to a mental process and because the mind is making it real, the body is responding accordingly. I feel it's disrespectful, plain and simple.

mutedsapphire
by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:22 PM
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I don't mind it only because I watch it sometimes, too. And I don't see porn as necessarily cheating because, at least for me, I don't pay attention to the people, just the act.
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starreyedcutie
by Bronze Member on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:43 PM
And I'm aware everyone has differnt things they allow in a relationship...I just hate when all women and all men are lumped into a group

Quoting mutedsapphire:

I don't mind it only because I watch it sometimes, too. And I don't see porn as necessarily cheating because, at least for me, I don't pay attention to the people, just the act.
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CameronsMommy23
by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:46 PM
Bump. To each his/her own ya know. :)
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jenn75
by Bronze Member on Jun. 24, 2012 at 6:50 PM
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I've already stated my position about porn on the other post.
I don't like the whole " it's better than him cheating" thing. If that is the only reason he's not out there screwing someone else then y'all don't need to be together.
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shoot4thestars
by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 7:05 PM

It's something that doesn't bother me either way.  If somebody is going to cheat I don't think porn is going to stop them.  I don't judge what other people think about it though.

starreyedcutie
by Bronze Member on Jun. 24, 2012 at 7:07 PM
Agree

Quoting jenn75:

I've already stated my position about porn on the other post.

I don't like the whole " it's better than him cheating" thing. If that is the only reason he's not out there screwing someone else then y'all don't need to be together.
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