hello ladies. my name is Josselynn. I am 22 years old. I have an 18 month old son, Trey and a 5 month old daughter, Amelia. I have been married for alittle over 2 years now and I just don't know if the marriage is right for us. It seems like we fight every day. He is older than me by 4 years yet I find myself having to be the mature one. I was 20 when we got married and I was 2 months pregnant with my son. We got married to make people happy and I wanted the family I didn't have when I was younger. I feel like getting married young has taking toll on me mental and emotional wise. I was only in one other relationship before my husband and it was a bad one and my husband was kind of a back up plan. I feel like I missed out life. I don't regret my children but I feel I should of waited. I feel us drifting apart. We haven't been intimate for almost 4 months now. I just don't know what to do anymore. I can't afford a divorce but I believe that would best for both parties.
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Have you tried counseling? Does he know that you're feeling all of this? And honey, I hate to tell you this but I'm 29, my husband is 38.. I'm the more mature one. It usually happens that way. (hugs)
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This. My first 2 years were the hardest. I got married a couple of months before my 21st birthday. My husband was so immature. Actually I felt like I was reading my story at first. Communication is so important. It is a learning process.
Quoting AlannaMaria:
Have you sat down and talked To your DH and told him how your feeling? I think before you give up, try and reconnect and make some changes in your relationship. They say the first 2 years of marriage are the hardest. Hang in there and communicate with one another and be open.
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I agree with AlannaMaria. Unfortunately, we live in a time where the media makes us believe that a marriage is supposed to be all sunshine and smiles and if you don't have the butterfly feelings in your stomach everyday then that means you are not really in love. Marriage and real love has its ups and downs, but it lasts because the 2 people want it to last and continue to work on it EVEN THROUGH the hard times. My husband is my first real relationship and I DO NOT feel like I am missing out on anything. It's time to sit down with your husband and talk about the current state of your marriage and what you two can do to improve it. It's time to start back investing into each other.
Quoting AlannaMaria:
Have you sat down and talked To your DH and told him how your feeling? I think before you give up, try and reconnect and make some changes in your relationship. They say the first 2 years of marriage are the hardest. Hang in there and communicate with one another and be open.
Welcome to the group!
its not puppies and rainbows. and having 2 babies in the house make even more strain on your marriage, do you have someone who can watch the kids for a couple hours? get some massage oil. and attack him. you'd be surprised how much you'd miss it, cuddle with him, take your time. make out like teenagers. that is always fun. and go talk to a counselor. see if he will go too, communication is key for any marriage just like intimacy is
When you met your dh/so?
- raiderchick2008
on Jun. 25, 2012 at 4:08 PM