i need advice pt 2

[ryahzMommy]

We havent had sex in over a month, he told me he shouldnt have to call me sexy if other guys do it, he want me to give up so he can give up. He wont call me sexy, compliment me, cuddle or nothing i have tried everything to make us better. But my daughter told me she dont like it when i cry she only want to see me happy but he gives me alot of signs of another woman but i have no proof. Do i give up or what?

[nicole2884]

sounds like you guys need to sit down an talk, which sounds like you already have, is he willing to go to counseling, sometimes it really does help to have non-bias outsider perspective , an mediation lol

i hope you guys can work it out, 

but he should always compliment you an you him kwim

that doesnt end , just because your married

while my husbands approach may have changed a bit since we got married, he still makes me feel sexy an compliments me 

[iammom616]

I tried talking before and when he kept deciding to ignore me or pretend nothing was wrong, I took my daughter and walked out. I got a better and started there a couple of nights and didn't let him know where I was staying. It changed his act real quick.

I do think counseling will help too. I want to go, but my husband won't do it.

I hope everything gets better for you hun.

[ryahzMommy]

He wont go to counseling

Quoting nicole2884:

sounds like you guys need to sit down an talk, which sounds like you already have, is he willing to go to counseling, sometimes it really does help to have non-bias outsider perspective , an mediation lol

i hope you guys can work it out, 

but he should always compliment you an you him kwim

that doesnt end , just because your married

while my husbands approach may have changed a bit since we got married, he still makes me feel sexy an compliments me 

[ryahzMommy]

Scary part is i know if i walked away n took my daughter the old him would have cared but now this him already told me he kind of wants me to give up so he can walk away. That statement hurted so bad but n made me want to give up but i know i still love him im just not sure he still do. Mabey i gained weight n he dont find me attractive anymore or his heart just not with me. i believe he still has love for me but not in love with me

Quoting iammom616:

I tried talking before and when he kept deciding to ignore me or pretend nothing was wrong, I took my daughter and walked out. I got a better and started there a couple of nights and didn't let him know where I was staying. It changed his act real quick.



I do think counseling will help too. I want to go, but my husband won't do it.



I hope everything gets better for you hun.

[dani0007]

Tell him you dont care what other men think you care what he thinks of you and he is your man and the only one who you give a dang about. Tell him that you dont want to go anywhere you want to be with him ..... if he doesnt react to that then you best be checking th phone bill for to many texts to a number you dont know.

[iammom616]

Well if he really don't even care if he don't see yo or yalls baby anymore then personally I wouldn't even want someone like that. That just shows he ain't trusting or dependable. And I know you said you love him still, but do you ever think that its the old him you love? Also, if he truly loves you, it wouldnt matter how much you weigh or what you hair or make up look like ya know. True love runs deep, its not based on what you see, its who the person is on the inside.

Quoting ryahzMommy:

[ryahzMommy]

I already told him that n thats ex actly wat i feel like im ignoring undeniable n i tried checkn his phone.record

Quoting dani0007:

Tell him you dont care what other men think you care what he thinks of you and he is your man and the only one who you give a dang about. Tell him that you dont want to go anywhere you want to be with him ..... if he doesnt react to that then you best be checking th phone bill for to many texts to a number you dont know.

[ryahzMommy]

Your right i think i might b the old him im still in love with, even though he say he dont have hope anymore i still do. I got faith that its just a phase but i dont want to keep making up.exuses for him because im only hurting my daughter and i

Quoting iammom616:

Well if he really don't even care if he don't see yo or yalls baby anymore then personally I wouldn't even want someone like that. That just shows he ain't trusting or dependable. And I know you said you love him still, but do you ever think that its the old him you love? Also, if he truly loves you, it wouldnt matter how much you weigh or what you hair or make up look like ya know. True love runs deep, its not based on what you see, its who the person is on the inside.

Quoting ryahzMommy:

[la_bella_vita]

 Bump!

[citychic416]

 You know I'm not real big on therapy. but I agree with nicole2884 maybe counseling would help or do you have someone else maybe you can talk to.  Even after 15 yrs my husband still tells me how beautiful I am and

i do the same don't stop doing the things that made u fall in love in the first place. If you love each other don't give up unless you feel you have no other choice.   I hop everything works out.