Is it Abuse? (A Resource Guide)

[aimesnyc]

Hi Ladies,

As a future Social Worker, I felt it would be good to have a post in the Love and Marriage group that has information about the different types of abuse - and yes, there is more than just physical abuse.  I have listed some links below, and I hope that everyone will add more resources and /or stories so that we can keep it on top as a primary resource.  Feel free to include resources and information about abuse within an adult relationship, child abuse/neglect, and elder abuse.  It's not a fun topic, but I think it's vital that we have these resources available!

Here are a few links to get us started:

http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse

http://www.asafeplacenh.org/abuse_types.html (be sure to donload the brochure!)

http://suite101.com/article/different-types-of-abuse-in-love-relationships-a12723

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm

http://alzheimers.about.com/od/advocates/a/6_types_abuse.htm

Here's a link to a post in the Babies group for more info about domestic violence: http://www.cafemom.com/group/babies/forums/read/17029403/Dv_info?last#last

[redvelvet42]

good for you! thanks for posting this

[WildCat73]

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[togado]

I can include de following for those  spanish speaking:

http://abogados-abogado.com/2012/09/07/abuso-sexual

http://abogados-abogado.com/divorcios

[aimesnyc]

Thank you!!!

Quoting togado:

I can include de following for those  spanish speaking:

http://abogados-abogado.com/2012/09/07/abuso-sexual

http://abogados-abogado.com/divorcios

[tata113]

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[tata113]

 Well, where to begin.... Been together spouse for almost 7 years.. married 6 1/2. I could get into his bio, but short and sweet, his mom and him never good relationship, his father.....  An outstanding amiable man! ok so know your wheels turning, your grasping some personality characteristics. Anyways, he has always been, right, better, spent more, sicker, done more ect. He deliberately says things to hurt my feelings, hateful things, and not just one thing he will continue on to the point he had told our oldest daughter(5) liking her in her eyes"I hate your mother"! We have 4children under 5, or oldest cold 911about 3months ago because how he was taking to me, my 4yr old son greeted the officer asking if he was taking his dad to jail for being mean to mommy and calling mommy names. 

Here is the quest part, I fell not long ago and broke my back..... from t12-L3 BURST COMPRESSION FRACTURE, AND L5 burst commissionCOMPRESSION fracture, also completely herniated my s1. So not only bad then, but now I am wasted space,"not even with it" mind u, I only started in hospital 2days! Dr s even impressed, I have babies to take care of,I am a strong woman! I have not spent 1single day in "bed rest" I get up every day with tears sweat and sometimes nausea fighting because my children give me that strength and God is good! I never took life for granted, and I sure in the neck not about to now.

I am still in love with my husband, I can't believe how he treats me, it's like he thinks he should just have to go to work literally! always been like that, I never get to pick a show to watch, for that matter he thinks I over text when me and children at dinner table and hurt locker is on.

  I guess ultimately what I need to hear is it gets better, maybe he can't handle seeing me hurt? Maybe he is afraid of what could have happened? Or maybe he has some skeletons in his closet....He use to console, visit laugh, ask if I wanted to watch something, he'll even a kill love u now on a bill device. Now he is consumed with himself, the gym, running, his creatine, whey, muscle mass, how bug his arms look, wearing tighter shirts, complaining about everything, EVERYTHING I SAY OR DO. Very pessimistic, only wants to pay attention to me if we having fornication, (yes broken back stakes, brace and all guilt trip me and threat) already 4x, it's been 3weeks since surgery..... Somebody please help. I don't get it...... Feel free to get personal, if u think u can help me, at least dry some tears, by all means

[kathyjo32]

what does it mean to bump a post

[Monsita]

Quoting candicedh:

I have been through it 3 times,was sexual abuse including getting hit,slapped.I had black eyes,both of my arms broken.I admit the the decision I made 6 year ago I did not regret at all.It was my only choice,my 3rd ex boyfriend and I shot him with his own shot gun killing him instantly.Threatened me with a knife walking towards me threatening to kill me.If I did not do this,I would not be here today

I just found your post...and I felt that I needed to tell you, HOW GLAD I AM THAT YOU ARE ALIVE!!!

Sometimes, bad things happens to some of us and it is an inspiration to see how  WE KEEP ON MOVING ON, rebuilding ourselves....

Please share with us; How are you doing?

[Monsita]

Quoting kathyjo32:

what does it mean to bump a post

 

It means that you like very much the post AND YOU ARE TELLING EVERYONE "It is worth reading/cheaking it out/sharing it with everyone/it could be some-one's life saver..."

[Monsita]

Quoting tata113:

 Well, where to begin.... Been together spouse for almost 7 years.. married 6 1/2. I could get into his bio, but short and sweet, his mom and him never good relationship, his father.....  An outstanding amiable man! ok so know your wheels turning, your grasping some personality characteristics. Anyways, he has always been, right, better, spent more, sicker, done more ect. He deliberately says things to hurt my feelings, hateful things, and not just one thing he will continue on to the point he had told our oldest daughter(5) liking her in her eyes"I hate your mother"! We have 4children under 5, or oldest cold 911about 3months ago because how he was taking to me, my 4yr old son greeted the officer asking if he was taking his dad to jail for being mean to mommy and calling mommy names. 

Here is the quest part, I fell not long ago and broke my back..... from t12-L3 BURST COMPRESSION FRACTURE, AND L5 burst commissionCOMPRESSION fracture, also completely herniated my s1. So not only bad then, but now I am wasted space,"not even with it" mind u, I only started in hospital 2days! Dr s even impressed, I have babies to take care of,I am a strong woman! I have not spent 1single day in "bed rest" I get up every day with tears sweat and sometimes nausea fighting because my children give me that strength and God is good! I never took life for granted, and I sure in the neck not about to now.

I am still in love with my husband, I can't believe how he treats me, it's like he thinks he should just have to go to work literally! always been like that, I never get to pick a show to watch, for that matter he thinks I over text when me and children at dinner table and hurt locker is on.

  I guess ultimately what I need to hear is it gets better, maybe he can't handle seeing me hurt? Maybe he is afraid of what could have happened? Or maybe he has some skeletons in his closet....He use to console, visit laugh, ask if I wanted to watch something, he'll even a kill love u now on a bill device. Now he is consumed with himself, the gym, running, his creatine, whey, muscle mass, how bug his arms look, wearing tighter shirts, complaining about everything, EVERYTHING I SAY OR DO. Very pessimistic, only wants to pay attention to me if we having fornication, (yes broken back stakes, brace and all guilt trip me and threat) already 4x, it's been 3weeks since surgery..... Somebody please help. I don't get it...... Feel free to get personal, if u think u can help me, at least dry some tears, by all means

You are a very unique/special person....WHEN YOU ARE READY TO MOVE AWAY FROM YOUR SPOUSE and all the abuse YOU WILL FEEL IT IN YOUR BONES and you will leave no matter what!

I am very sorry that this is happenning to you! Dealing with health issues at the same time must be very hard on you, SORRY!