Is it Abuse? (A Resource Guide)

[aimesnyc]

Hi Ladies,

As a future Social Worker, I felt it would be good to have a post in the Love and Marriage group that has information about the different types of abuse - and yes, there is more than just physical abuse.  I have listed some links below, and I hope that everyone will add more resources and /or stories so that we can keep it on top as a primary resource.  Feel free to include resources and information about abuse within an adult relationship, child abuse/neglect, and elder abuse.  It's not a fun topic, but I think it's vital that we have these resources available!

Here are a few links to get us started:

http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse

http://www.asafeplacenh.org/abuse_types.html (be sure to donload the brochure!)

http://suite101.com/article/different-types-of-abuse-in-love-relationships-a12723

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm

http://alzheimers.about.com/od/advocates/a/6_types_abuse.htm

Here's a link to a post in the Babies group for more info about domestic violence: http://www.cafemom.com/group/babies/forums/read/17029403/Dv_info?last#last

[Monsita]

Quoting julibean72:

I'm a mom of 4 and 2 years ago was told I was a victim of domestic violence. I had been subjected to years and years of control and verbal abuse. I left 3 times and this is the last time. My three older children won't talk to me because their father made our marriage such a huge part of their lives. My 11 year old "gets it", saying she"hates what I did, but loves me". She hates that I left her father. Custody hasn't been established yet but I'm going for full custody hoping that she will heal some from being controlled and verbally abused for years as well. The courts actually don't even recognize verbal abuse, which I think is a crime in and of itself.

Hello!  I was wondering..how did everything ended in court?

How are you doing?

[tatie503]

your heading in the right direction keep it up.  I have been in the same position and it's hard to let your heart follow your mind in it's dissition.

 

[Cutenessmom]

Thanks 

[HasNoIdea93]

thank you very much for posting these sites for everyone

[Debby29681]

Thank you !!

[APJrzy]

As a survivor of domestic violence, THANK YOU for posting these!   I managed to survive nearly 20 years of an abusive marriage because it was all subtle and I didn't have the support system to fall back on.  I kept everything to myself since I wasn't "allowed" to talk to anyone about what went on.  Granted life since has been extremely stressful, but definitely MUCH better!   If you can talk to someone, talk to them, don't keep it bottled up, you'll only destroy yourself, and your children, if you have children. ... I didn't take that step and it has strained my relationship with my daughter, but my children know that I am here for them no matter what ... and they are here for me no matter what.  DO NOT STAY IN AN ABUSIVE RELATAIONSHIP!  IT IS NOT WORTH IT!  

[all-4-them]

I don't know if my situation is considered abuse. Last night we got into an argument and I said a few things that weren't very nice pushing his buttons getting him angry. At one point he threw the remote across the room shattering it. He usually throws things or punches things during fights. He's never hit me. After a few minutes of fighting he got up.. leaned over me (I was sitting on the couch next to folded laundry) put his face inches away from mine and started throwing clothes in my face. Afterwards he said he did it to snap me out of my anger. He also will talk for hours and hours until he feels he's gotten his point across.

[Rebekah3735]

What does bump mean?

[ToraTigerMama]

BUMP!

[Gothmamafaerie]

Hi, I haven't read any of the links yet, but I just wanted to comment that I think this was a great idea, and I thank you  for posting. I think it's something that isn't talked about as much as it should be... And I can definitely relate. Thanks again for the post. I'm sure many will benefit.

~B