Would you leave her if you were me?

[RaLeighsMommy11]

My DH & I are celebrating our 1 year wedding anniversary in about 3 weeks! Our plans are to go to the beach & stay for 2 days (the weekend of our anniversary) and then drive back home. The beach is 4 1/2 maybe 5 hours away in traffic. My dd is 22 months old. She is RARELY away from me. I'm a sahm so she is very attached to me. I left her on my wedding night BUT I went to my moms house put her to sleep (around 830ish) went to hotel had my wedding night then was up @ 6 am to go get her lol & I was 5 miles down the road. She LOVES my mom & is also a big mawmaws girl. She has spent the night with her a couple times because she is @ the age now that she asks to go home with her :( makes me sad but anyways lol. She is never gone for more than maybe 10 hours. My DH wants to leave our dd with my mom the 2 days we are gone so we can have alone time. He says we didn't have a real honey moon & we never get to be just us 2 so that's why he wants to leave her. She's already been to the beach once this year and hated the sand but loves the pool of course & we have another family trip to the beach that she will be going to @ the end of August. This month is our first month of ttc baby #2 so soon I will be pregnant then we will have another child so this is really the only chance we have to do this for a while. I just hate the thought of being so far away :( but I know my husband and I need our alone time. Am I a horrible mom if I leave her? I still haven't decided 100% but leaning more towards leaving her. She hates to ride in the car anyways so that's 1 less thing she has to do. I guess we will see if I actually have the strength to do it lol. So what would you do if you were me?

[withallmylove]

Do you TRUST your mom with your Daughter's life? 

 I am sure your mother would guard your daughter .(her Granddaughter) with her life. Let her enjoy her time with her Granddaughter, GO enjoy time with your Husband have fun.

Have lots and lots of fun, lots and lots of laughter , lots and lots  of  SEX!

[RaLeighsMommy11]

Yes I trust her very much with my daughter. She is wonderful with her & I know would do anything for her & would even drive to the beach if she was missing me to much lol.

Quoting withallmylove:

Do you TRUST your mom with your Daughter's life? 

 I am sure your mother would guard your daughter .(her Granddaughter) with her life. Let her enjoy her time with her Granddaughter, GO enjoy time with your Husband have fun.

Have lots and lots of fun, lots and lots of laughter , lots and lots  of  SEX!

[JenJen285]

No you're not horrible! Lol. Do whatever makes you comfortable. If you go without her, will you actually enjoy yourself? Or will you worry and call a lot? I know it's not ideal to take her along but as I said, its all about your comfort level.

[earthangel1967]

Quoting withallmylove:

Do you TRUST your mom with your Daughter's life? 

 I am sure your mother would guard your daughter .(her Granddaughter) with her life. Let her enjoy her time with her Granddaughter, GO enjoy time with your Husband have fun.

Have lots and lots of fun, lots and lots of laughter , lots and lots  of  SEX!

I agree I would 100% for sure leave her.  You and your husband need special time like this and one of the best gifts you can give your daughter is loving eachother and she will be in good hands and have lots of fun and also it is healthy for her to learn to do well without mommy there all the time for periods of time it will help her prepare for years ahead to go to school and playdates and things like that.  Also your mom will treasure this special visit with your little one too and they will have that special memory with her to treasure all their lives.  You should go and have a wonderful time and feel ZERO guilt.. as a matter of fact you should feel proud that you are doing something that will be special to so many people.  You can always do something special with her when you come back if it makes you feel better

[pse07]

I would be outta there. My girls love their grandma. Two days alone with my hubby sounds amazing.

[-mamas-]

I'm in the same boat as you! My baby is 10 mths old and my 1 yr anniversary is 7/31! I want to go away for the weekend but don't want to leave him! He's never been away from me for more than 8 hrs and never overnight. He still nurses at night, at least once. I'm so torn :/

But don't feel bad for going without her! She obviously loves being with your mom and will be ok! You need your alone time!! If my ds was good sleeping over my mom's, I wouldn't hesitate leaving him for a night or two! I need a break and alone time with DH!!

[melisawoosley]

Go and enjoy before bby #2 lol :)

[mckinneymom918]

Don't feel bad leaving her! You need some hubby time too :). When we got married, dd was almost 3... We left her for a week while we went to cancun. And while it was hard- especially the lack of communication, I'm glad we did, because by our 1st anniversary we had a 3 week old. Last year we left both the kids at our house with my inlaws while we went to Chicago for a few days, ds had just turned 3. They all had a blast! And we had some time for us (and now we've got another one on the way in September).

On the other side, my hubbys brother & his wife have left all of their children for over a week right at a year- that's not something I would be doing... A night maybe, where I was close enough to go get them if I needed to- but not a Friday thru the next Sunday while I go out west... Apparently I needed to vent about that!!

[saraface5383]

Go! Go and have a great time! You'll go have a good time and come back to her and she will be just fine and love you just the same!

[RADmomma]

I would go. But DD has a really special bond with my parents & always has.

We got married when she was 8 months old. We left her with my parents for a week. She did fine. She actually slept better at night there than she ever did at home. They spoiled her with love & they got some great memories. Since then... they take her at least one weekend a month. Its to the point now where if I call... she can't talk to me because she is too busy having fun. LOL.

its good for Gramma , its good for DD & its good for you & hubby!!