Opinions needed. I have been married for 5 yrs and 3 months ago I seperated from my husband. He was verbably abusive and it got even worse when I left him. When I left, I took our daughter and I went to stay with my parents. Because of the verbal abuse and because my husband changing the locks on our home, my parents decided it would be best for me to divorce my husband. My parents decided to retain a lawyer, with my consent, which is a non refundable $4,000. Well to make a long story short, after about a month, my husband decided to reach out to a counselor and a preacher. He started to realize that what he was doing was destroying our relationship and he didn't want to lose me or our daughter. He really seemed like he was sincere when he pleaded to get us back home. And I still believe he has changed for the better and his relationship with Christ has gotten stronger, as well. I've been home now for about a month and things have been really good, besides the fact the he feels my parents were in the wrong for getting a lawyer so fast and not being the Christian family that they say they are. He feels we shouldn't have to pay them back the $4,000 because they signed the papers. Also, my parents are still pretty upset with my husband because of the way he treated me. They feel he should apologize to them and they've mentioned sitting down with us to talk about things. My husband says he only owes me an apology and not them, because none of it was directed towards them. So to sum it up, my husband does not want to be around my family and my family is upset because they feel if he's truly sincere then he would want to work on there relationship as well. I am so lost and feel stuck in the middle. And the other day I read this quote and it really hit home!! "Surely what a man does when he is in an uncomfortable situation is the best evidence for what sort of man he is." - C.S. Lewis I feel like showing this quote to my husband, but I feel that might not be a good idea. Thoughts and opinion would be greatly appreciated!! Should we pay my parents back? Should my husband have to apologize to my parents??