Iam lost my guy doesnt like my family....is this normal?

[janello81]

My guy doesnt like my family at all.  He doesnt want to go to family functions and if he does he just sits there and dont talk to anyone....he says he has tried to but still feels left out.  I have tried to get him more included but I feel like cant do it all...Is is this something normal?  Shouldnt he want to be a part of our family or just stay home?  I am lost because this seems strange to me....and he would rather spend time with our family or his friends.  He doesnt like his family either.  Help please?

[Nattiesmom10]

Idk if it's normal. DH gets along well with my family I mean there's a few people he doesn't care for & it's the same with me & his family. Is he shy? If he's just gonna be a downer I'd leave him home. He needs to put jn a little effort though.

[janello81]

he doesnt want to try to talk to anyone....he isnt shy just thinks people should be a certain standard and that hes usually right...he doesnt seem to care how other people feel...im getting fed up.

[DarlaHood]

Unless your family is offensive or rude, then no, it's not really normal, and it's also not really acceptable.  He needs to be friendly to your family and willing to go with you and feel happy that you're happy spending time with your family.  And it is also really better for a marriage and your kids to have everyone be merged as a family if that is possible.  It creates support, harmony, and adds to your foundation and security.  It doesn't sound like there is a rift, just that he is kind of not sociable.  That isn't good.

[ballerina.2006]

My dh doesnt like family functions with my family. I don't like family functiona with my family either half the time. Dh sits back and watches the kids, reads, or plays on his phone. He is still uncomfortable around my dad but after 6.5 yrs of marriage he is trying to at least carry on small talk. So for me, yes it is normal for my dh to be a wallflower at family functions (he did it at big family dinners with his side of the family too. He is just naturally quiet an reserved)

[Nicky2911]

God my SO and my mother hate each other. They get their panties in a twist quickly and misunderstand people easily. Since they both are so alike and have these same problems the fights can happen quickly. I have to shout at them both to shut the hell up and stop arguing like a bunch of old, pissy men. Sometimes one or both storm off, sometimes they shut up, sometimes they try to shout at me about what is going on. I tell them I don't give a damn but I'm not going to listen to them bitch at each other and if I have to I'll put them in separate corners like they children they are mimicking. I swear they are gonna drive me batty!

[AlannaMaria]

Why doesn't he talk to them? Are they friendly with him?

[biancalina20]

 Darn that does suck.. but it is something that happens with some people.. Maybe try and create an event.. perhaps first with males in your family that are his age.. have them hang out somehow and do something fun together so they can become "friends" then start adding people in to other event with him... Somehow get him in there but start with a few then gradually work more people in the next time..

[fostermomoftwo]

well communcation is the key. i dont like my dh's family..and i def have some good reasons why i wont go over there anymore. so try asking him.

[DixieL]

Talk to your family and ask them to talk to him more and also include him in more things then he will feel closer. My husband loves most of my family especially my mom. When my mom gives us presents for Christmas or birthdays she makes sure it is equal. She feels like my husband is just like a son. They are very close. He even calls her mom

[CrazyLife1996]

My husband doesn't like my family but will suck it up and try to be friendly.