Completely off topic, but this group is less judgmental than the rest. Need advice. Edit with Poll
Question: Ask him to change the time frame?
Total Votes: 47
I have a 4.5 year old from my previous marriage. I am 35 weeks pregnant with my now husbands child. My oldest DD's bio father would like to take her to his home state for a couple weeks (we live in CA, he wants to take her to WI). He has done this before in the past and I have never had an issue with it. But the time frame that he wants to take her is the exact time that I am due to give birth to this child. I am a little torn. On one hand, it would be nice for my husband and I to have this time for just us and the new baby and my oldest wont feel pushed to the side. On the other hand, my oldest is so excited to become a big sister and I am afraid she will be upset if she misses the birth.
So, I have no intention of telling my ex that he cant take her, I just need to decide when would be a good time. He has not yet bought the tix for them to fly back to his home state. If you were me, would you ask him to change the time frame he wanted to go? (to the best of my knowledge, there are no important family functions he or his family has planned during that time). Or do you think its a good idea for my husband and I to be alone with just the newborn? (admittedly, it would be a bit easier just caring for the newborn, instead of a newborn and a preschooler)