So my future husband has had this guys trip planned for the last few months... No biggie! He goes every year. One of the guys cancelled because of his new girlfriend, which I informed my SO was going to happen. The SO informed the rest of the guys because it will increase how much everyone has to pay and because he planned the whole trip he feels responsible. He suggested inviting another male friend that no one is really fond of but is reliable. Everyone declined. One of the other guys going takes it upon himself to invite some random chick.
I try really hard not to be the jealous wife, but I'm sorry. When my husband is telling me he doesnt want me to go because its his time to let loose and drink as much as he can, piss wherever he wants, talk about completely inappropriate things and just be with his guys, and now some other woman is going?! I have to admit he is NOT happy about it, and it was not his decision. But it just still isnt right. It isn't a matter of trusting him. But I dont know this woman, and she isn't emotionally attached to any of the men going and there is going to be A LOT of alcohol. I'm not comfortable with the situation at all. And they are all camping. Its not like everyone has seperate quarters. Its all very open. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
To me it is all very hypocritical... Opinions please ladies... I really hate fighting with him, and he is already very frustrated with his friend. What do I do?
Yes, I hear what you're saying and I would be mad about the situaion too. I'd be mad at my husband if he didn't take care of the chick issue. At this point, he probably needs to over-rule the bringing a girl to the party or invite you too. Talk to him about it. I don't think you're being jealous or unreasonable at all.
Fact is, he still doesn't want me to go. He doesn't want her there either. He misses his friends and I'm sincerely afraid that after this trip he may not speak to this particular friend again. And even if I want to go fact is we have 3 kids and I have to work -_- I am just not happy about it at all...
I think he feels like its out of his control. He has made it clear that he does NOT want her there, but his "friends" are basically saying Oh well she already covered her shift and wants to go... Its so messed up and I feel bad for him. Honestly I almost feel I should bite my tongue because he is already upset and I dont want any issues with him and I. *sigh*
Quoting fireeyes81:Yes, I hear what you're saying and I would be mad about the situaion too. I'd be mad at my husband if he didn't take care of the chick issue. At this point, he probably needs to over-rule the bringing a girl to the party or invite you too. Talk to him about it. I don't think you're being jealous or unreasonable at all.
not sure why it is bothering me but
- Mommyof3ERC
on Jul. 11, 2012 at 9:44 AM