So my future husband has had this guys trip planned for the last few months... No biggie! He goes every year. One of the guys cancelled because of his new girlfriend, which I informed my SO was going to happen. The SO informed the rest of the guys because it will increase how much everyone has to pay and because he planned the whole trip he feels responsible. He suggested inviting another male friend that no one is really fond of but is reliable. Everyone declined. One of the other guys going takes it upon himself to invite some random chick.
I try really hard not to be the jealous wife, but I'm sorry. When my husband is telling me he doesnt want me to go because its his time to let loose and drink as much as he can, piss wherever he wants, talk about completely inappropriate things and just be with his guys, and now some other woman is going?! I have to admit he is NOT happy about it, and it was not his decision. But it just still isnt right. It isn't a matter of trusting him. But I dont know this woman, and she isn't emotionally attached to any of the men going and there is going to be A LOT of alcohol. I'm not comfortable with the situation at all. And they are all camping. Its not like everyone has seperate quarters. Its all very open. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
To me it is all very hypocritical... Opinions please ladies... I really hate fighting with him, and he is already very frustrated with his friend. What do I do?
So if it's a "Guys" weekend, why was a lady invited in the first place, (I don't care if it was someones Grandma!)....what is the point of guys getting together to hang out and do guys things, if a lady is going?
I would be mad too! Not that I don't trust my husband, but I think having a lady tag along, seems lame-o. I know when I go out for coffee, dinner or occasionally a drink with some of my girl friends, for a "girls" night...I wouldn't want a guy tagging along.....
I think all the other guys should get together, and state, it's a "guys" weekend, (no offense to the lady)
On one hand, it's so important to stay focused on the fact it's NOT HIS FAULT when you talk about this, but they are basically screwing up the guy time, and there's no reason you can't go now.
He can now confidently say "well if it's a mixed trip this year, I might bring my wife" and should probably do so as a pointed message to the guy who decided to bring a woman.
The angle is, you're annoyed that his guy time has been screwed up - it seems like it should do him good and WTF is someone else ruining it when he never has.
If he says "nah, it's ok I reconciled myself with having chicks there" - then you can say "Awesome! I'll get my sleeping bag"
Honestly I'd be pretty pissed too!!! Why is it ok for some random girl to go but not the one your engaged to?! Like I tell my fiance all the time its not that I don't trust you its that I don't trust other people...especially ones I don't know! I think he should say he doesn't want the girl there and if she's still going then either you come or he doesn't go at all....Its all out of respect for you especially if he knows how much it's bothering you that some random last minute chick is going on a GUYS trip!
Dh and my argument today made me so mad, and realized he is lazy
- Mommyof3ERC
on Jul. 11, 2012 at 9:44 AM