I think you're being silly. My husband has tons of female facebook friends,and I have lots of guy friends,no big deal.
I think it depends. My husband doesn't mind me asking him (respectfully and calmly) about any female friends on facebook because he had an emotional affair and was doing some other stuff for the first 4 years of marriage (stopped less than a year ago). So the trust is still being rebuilt. However if your husband has never done anything to break your trust in him and as long as he is behaving just like a friend towards her than I think you should respect that.
Quoting GodsAmiga:I think it depends. My husband doesn't mind me asking him (respectfully and calmly) about any female friends on facebook because he had an emotional affair and was doing some other stuff for the first 4 years of marriage (stopped less than a year ago). So the trust is still being rebuilt. However if your husband has never done anything to break your trust in him and as long as he is behaving just like a friend towards her than I think you should respect that.
See, that doesn't sound right to me. He should not be testing you. To me it sounds like he's in a place that my husband was in for a while. When he first stopped doing stuff I was still kind of afraid that he was doing things. He used to confess to me what he was doing, promise to stop, things would be okay-ish for 2 months (almost always exactly that) until I started getting a nagging feeling and asked him, and then he'd admit that he had never stopped. So when he finally really did stop and changed it took me a while to really feel confident that he had. But he didn't get it. He thought that just because he really had stopped I should believe him and have full faith and trust in him and that there was no reason whatsoever to wonder about him. He finally realized that after the amount of lies he had told there was a good reason why it took a little bit for my trust in him to become strong again. I'm surprised though that after a year he felt the need to actually test you.It does sound to me though that there are still some issues that you two need to work through and resolve. I think you two might need to sit down and really talk about this. When trust has been broken it's tough on both parties. He might feel like nothing he does is good enough so if you do have trust in him again tell him! And then you are trying to feel confident in him but every so often something comes up that sparks up old memories. It's hard not to remember the past but if he's changed and stopped doing things then try to act like he's a whole new person who never did any of those things. Give him the benefit of the doubt. And let him know that you trust him. :-) I hope this all makes sense! My kids keep distracting me while I'm typing. Lol!
Quoting paigesmommy925:
That is exactly it, for the 1st 2 years we had problems like that. For the past year its been great but when he adds some random girl it brings up all those old feelings. I did ask him calmly & he is the 1 that flipped out, he said it was a test & I obviously failed.
Quoting GodsAmiga:
I think it depends. My husband doesn't mind me asking him (respectfully and calmly) about any female friends on facebook because he had an emotional affair and was doing some other stuff for the first 4 years of marriage (stopped less than a year ago). So the trust is still being rebuilt. However if your husband has never done anything to break your trust in him and as long as he is behaving just like a friend towards her than I think you should respect that.
aren't you his wife, and not his mother?...and why is it that just becasue he's married, he can't have any female friends (from the past or whatever), if your good within your marriage, and you trust him and he trust you...then shouldn't be an issue...idk, i don't understand insecuritie or jealousy...
It's not that I don't think he should have female friends, he has a lot the way it is. I don't feel that he should go out & make NEW female friends especially ones that are single & that he admitted he felt was flirting with him. He had never met this girl before, she just happene to have been friends with his ex that is the only connection he has with her.
Quoting nsparky1964:
aren't you his wife, and not his mother?...and why is it that just becasue he's married, he can't have any female friends (from the past or whatever), if your good within your marriage, and you trust him and he trust you...then shouldn't be an issue...idk, i don't understand insecuritie or jealousy...
When you met your dh/so?
- paigesmommy925
on Jul. 12, 2012 at 10:06 PM