My husband and I have been together 16 years this month. Married 7. We have 5 kids. We meet when I was 17, he just turned 21 that month we met. We started dating about 2 weeks later and I moved in about a month later. I was pregnant with our 1st daughter 2 months later. So, as you can see we moved very fast. Well, now 16 years later I'm questioning our relationship. From the start, our relationship was rushed and we have been through so much. If you can think it, we probably have been through it. At this moment he's in prison and will be home in about 8 months. This is the 2nd time he has been locked up. He's not a bad person, he just makes bad choices. I guess what I need help on, lately I feel that maybe we have out grown each other. I love him so much but I don't know if its because of the kids or if i do truly love him. He tells me its the kids. I admit i didn't love him when i got pregnant. Our daughter made me love him. He says that he loved me from the moment he first seen me. He can tell me the first time he seen me and what i was wearing( it wasn't the day we met) he later seen me walking to summer school and the next day he came to talk to me. From that day we seen each other everyday. After all these years I still get butterflies when i go to see him and i go crazy if he doesn't call me at least 2 times a day. We've always had the " you hurt me now I'm going to hurt you type of relationship" which we both have gone to far and have disrespected our marriage to the fullest. The first time he was locked up, we weren't married and we had 2 daughter's. He was gone for 4 years. When he was gone I dated who ever I thought would be better than he was but after all those years, i was just wasting my time. No other guy compared to him, no other guy knows me as well as he does. I met some really good guys but no matter what they did or where we went , I just wished it was my husband I was with. I'm starting to make my husband unsure if I want to be with him. He feels it when we talk and ask me if I want to be with him, if I'm happy. I guess in a way I'm scared to be happy with him. We caused each other so much hurt and pain that maybe I'm used to that type of relationship. We both have said that when he gets out that we will put a 100% into out marriage because we never have. I just don't know if its to late?