My fiance has not told his parents that we are engaged. Its has been a month. help
My fiance has been together for a couple of years. We had one break up for 3months. He came back to me to tell me how much he is in love with me and want to marry me. I had made him hung out with me for four months before we got engaged. He was married before and divorce about 10 years ago. His son is 13 and he is a full time father. I have a 3years old son full time too. We did went through hell and heaven. What I dont understand is that even though he had already talked to his parents about getting married again and his mother has a great disapproval since his first marriage was a failure. I know that his father does accept me but i am not sure how he feels about us getting marry. He is 35 and I am 27. I was never married before and expected a happy or exciting planning for our wedding. But had a buzz killed, when a couple of places that i had checked out. He didnt liked it, either it was to far or he didn't like the location. Before the engagement, he was always talking about our future together and goals. But recently he seem to have shut down. He is a project manager at the bp refinery. He had told me that we are cover financially but then complains about not having money. His parent had upset him on saturday, i dont know if he is hiding info from me. I do feel like he is. He said the reason why he didnt tell his parent is because they will ruin something that should be happy moment. So, he rather for them to figure it himself. I shouldnt worry about it, that he has it under control.
His parents if he doesn't want to tell them it is his choice not to!
Just ask him y, otherwise ull go crazy
You guyz need to hold off on the wedding plans until you guyz can communicate better. This "marriage" already sounds doomed if you cant start talkin to each other. I dont think he is hiding anything bad and i understand that if his parents disapprove that can hamper him wanting to share the good news. But than i guess will he never tell his parents when you guyz get married? I know your SO will be sad that his parents dont approve of you or his marriage, but everyone needs to "get over it" and move on. Probably 90 percent of marriages are where in laws dont like their childrens spouses. (LOL! Just guessin here, but i dont like my inlaws). COMMUNICATE, get married, and move on!
Okay first off, I wouldn't be to concerned that he hasn't told his mom yet. My husband didn't tell his mom that we were getting married until 2 months before the wedding. Seriously. I had the venue, the dress, bought the invitations.. I told him, "I'm going to mail this out in about a month, so you might want to get to telling your mom you're getting married hun." I knew that he was nervous about telling his parents. It was a 2nd marriage for him also. Eventually she's going to find out. I'd give him time to work through his feelings on that. It's only been a month since he's proposed.
Second.. from what I hear, ALL MEN flip out about the cost. My husband was the one that wanted to get married RIGHT THEN. He was all about marriage, family.. the whole 9 yards. He proposed, he was jumping over the moon with happiness. Then I bought the dress. And OMGosh he was freaking out. The dress, I guess in his mind, cemented that it was really happening. He flipped out for a few days. We discussed NOT getting married and I told him I'd take the dress back. "Oh no!! We're not doing that. We're getting married dammit! Just give me a couple of days to process." Okay then.. haha.
8 years later.. :) We're happy. Everything will work out sweetie. I'm sorry this has been long. I just though you might benefit from my personal experience. (hugs)
What's so bad about porn anyway?
In-Laws..Do you get along with your? I don't.....
- nikkinicole85
on Jul. 16, 2012 at 10:02 AM