My husband had an affair, a short one but still. It has finally hit me what has happened and now I am having trouble dealing with it even though we have decided to work it out. Women that have decided to work on their marriages, did this happend to you? The shock wore off and then you were like oh crap that SOB, the stress hit, the hurt really hit and then you were undecided on what you really wanted? Did you go through a small depression and pissed off stage? What did you do to work through it?