I wonder as I am married and love my husband but I miss other males attention.
I don't think its all that hard. I have been married 30 yrs. Other guys still flirt so I don't not get any other males attention.
We didn't get married until we were 28. He was married before, I wasn't. We had plenty of attention before we got married. We have been married over 20 years, It gets easier every day.
I have been married now 29 yrs. but there is no spark anymore. I do love him but he sleeps in one room and I in another.
If you're itching for that male attention, try to create that spark again with him. I haven't been married nearly as long as you have, & I reached a similar point. I even tried my hardest to get something out of DH to no avail. I later found out that he was struggling with depression & had no motivation. Could that be a factor?This also may sound ridiculous & cheesy, but I've seen this new show called "7 days of sex", & it profiles couples in your situation. They commit to having 7 straight days of sex, & at the end of it they either recommit themselves with renewed vows & all, or they have the option for calling it for what it is. I have yet to see a couple not recommit. DH & I have thought about doing the challenge ourselves... & they don't just have sex. They truly try to change themselves for the better & improve the marriage. It might be worth a shot.
Quoting poshkat:We will be married for 9 years in September and honestly it's only gotten better. If you work at it it's not hard. I think you have to have a friendship too. Nobody else makes me laugh like my husband. We can sit in silence next to each other and not say anything and we're both comfortable with that. We make it work. We have completely different tastes in music, movies and everything else, but we both make an effort to learn about what the other one likes.
You have to find what works for you two. Luckily we have his parents to look up to and learn from and get advice from when we need it. You can't model your life on some image of what you think a great marriage is. You just have to do your thing .
I am extremely upright and Dh is very laid back. This afternoon he was in one of the kids tube things trying to get the cat into it, i told him to quit fooling around and his mother reminded me that he's just having fun and to let him be a kid sometimes. Gotta give and take, otherwise it can fall to pieces
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