Today dh had the day off from work. I look forward to having dh home because he's an extra pair of hands to help with the boys and someone to talk to. The thing about dh is that he's the kind of person who see's the glass as half empty, wears his feelings on his sleeves and always takes everything I say as a negative thing in a sense easily defensive even when I try to say something good. Today was a very bad day. It started out with me attempting to do my morning chores. Dh got all frustrated and asked if we were going to spend the morning deep cleaning. I said no I am just doing my morning chores. He asked what they were. I told him and he rolled his eyes saying that we were deep cleaning. I said no just my morning daily chores. I wrote out a quick list of errands so he could take the boys and I could get my chores done. He willingly agreed. He was gone a little over an hour. My morning chores got done. I was dressed and ready to go when he got back. The kids were also ready to go. We got in the car and went to the park. The kids played on the playground and I enjoyed chasing them around and playing with them. Dh spent the whole time complaining at the boys. Crabbing at the boys when they asked dh to push them on the swings. He'd say you know how to swing push yourself. We leave and walk down to the duck pond. We are feeding the ducks and dh couldn't have looked more annoyed. I tried to cheer him up by going and encouraging him to join us, but no luck. He kept saying he was fine. We came home and nothing we said or did was right. I have never heard someone say shut up more than dh did today. At one point I thought he might be stressed or tired. I ran dh a hot bubble bath, set out his favorite jammies and took the boys for an hour long walk. When we got back he was no better off than when we left. The attitude kept up. I made his favorite dinner and his favorite dessert to maybe help cheer him up. No such luck the attitude kept up. I've tried to talk to him 3 times today but I keep getting barked at, a negative attitude and the defense mode where he thinks I'm attacking him. I am currently sitting on the couch watching diners drive ins and dives he is sitting on the love seat across from me with his arms crossed and this pissy look on his face. I asked him if he wants to watch the 3 stooges and he said your watching this and I'm just sitting here. I said he could put it in and he said it's fine. I am trying very hard to keep my cool. We have a birthday party to go to tomorrow so he better lose this attitude by tomorrow because I'm not spending the day with the same attitude as today. What is a girl like me to do?
on Jul. 20, 2012 at 9:44 PM