I've never wanted to walk out more than I have today!

[Kageegirl]

Today dh had the day off from work. I look forward to having dh home because he's an extra pair of hands to help with the boys and someone to talk to. The thing about dh is that he's the kind of person who see's the glass as half empty, wears his feelings on his sleeves and always takes everything I say as a negative thing in a sense easily defensive even when I try to say something good. Today was a very bad day. It started out with me attempting to do my morning chores. Dh got all frustrated and asked if we were going to spend the morning deep cleaning. I said no I am just doing my morning chores. He asked what they were. I told him and he rolled his eyes saying that we were deep cleaning. I said no just my morning daily chores. I wrote out a quick list of errands so he could take the boys and I could get my chores done. He willingly agreed. He was gone a little over an hour. My morning chores got done. I was dressed and ready to go when he got back. The kids were also ready to go. We got in the car and went to the park. The kids played on the playground and I enjoyed chasing them around and playing with them. Dh spent the whole time complaining at the boys. Crabbing at the boys when they asked dh to push them on the swings. He'd say you know how to swing push yourself. We leave and walk down to the duck pond. We are feeding the ducks and dh couldn't have looked more annoyed. I tried to cheer him up by going and encouraging him to join us, but no luck. He kept saying he was fine. We came home and nothing we said or did was right. I have never heard someone say shut up more than dh did today. At one point I thought he might be stressed or tired. I ran dh a hot bubble bath, set out his favorite jammies and took the boys for an hour long walk. When we got back he was no better off than when we left. The attitude kept up. I made his favorite dinner and his favorite dessert to maybe help cheer him up. No such luck the attitude kept up. I've tried to talk to him 3 times today but I keep getting barked at, a negative attitude and the defense mode where he thinks I'm attacking him. I am currently sitting on the couch watching diners drive ins and dives he is sitting on the love seat across from me with his arms crossed and this pissy look on his face. I asked him if he wants to watch the 3 stooges and he said your watching this and I'm just sitting here. I said he could put it in and he said it's fine. I am trying very hard to keep my cool. We have a birthday party to go to tomorrow so he better lose this attitude by tomorrow because I'm not spending the day with the same attitude as today. What is a girl like me to do?

[Ksmomy]

You have more patients than I've got because by the end of our time at the park I would have lost it and laid into him about a crappy attitude. My husband has tried that a few times and unless I know the reason for it or can guess I'll fight with him. I'm a bitch though! If my husband was sitting like you say your husband is I'd tell him to go pout in another room or get over it!
Sorry I couldn't say anything to help you!

[MrsImperfect]

What a dick damn. Something crawled up his ass and hea taking it out on everyone around him like a spoiled rotten child. I would of went off. Like seriously tell me wtf is wrong or leave! Cause we sont deserve to be treated like crap.

[BrookieCookie1]

 WHen's the last time you guys had sex? In al honesty, it sounds like everything on his day off revolved around kids and housework, and if it's been a while, nice as the bubble bath, jammies, and dinner followed by tv gesture may be, if a man just wants to be intimate with his wife, he will often act pissy as you've described. It's no consolation to them. Ask him if he'd like to be intimate and see if he's still pissy-that's what I'd do.

[xxMocahFrappxx]

He's a grown man throwing a big fit. I'd ignore him as I would with a child throwing a tantrum. When he wants to talk, then you can have a talk.
You can't stress over someone's mood if they're Determined to be miserable. Miserable people get left out of fun activities

[hot2him]

My dh can be like that. If he can't get his mood under control, I try to keep everyone away from him. It's just easier than fighting and having the kids treated badly. Does he have a place he can go to get away from everyone? Thankfully, my dh has a room that's all his own where he can hide when he's moody. Even if it's just your bedroom, suggest that maybe he needs to be by himself and he can go into the bedroom and close the door so no one bothers him. Sorry! I know how difficult days liket that can be.

[jada2514]

 I'm kinda in the same boat as you. He's  being childish and stupid and there's not need for it. I myself constantly struggle with the  feeling to leave my dh because living in a house like this is very stressful and its like a roller coaster. You never know what kind of mood he'll be in or how long he's gonna be that way. And it's not fair to you or the kids. I wish I had an answer for you or something you could do but ultimately your not doing anything wrong. He's the one that has to change and when you've had enough you've had enough.

[AnGLInterrupted]

I get what you're saying, but I'm sorry..  if my DH were to treat ME like that because he was wanting sex, then I'd hand him a bottle of lotion.  If he wants to be with me, then he's got to treat me like it..  not throw an all day tantrum.  I wouldn't want to have sex with him after dealing with that attitude all day!!  LOL

Quoting BrookieCookie1:

 WHen's the last time you guys had sex? In al honesty, it sounds like everything on his day off revolved around kids and housework, and if it's been a while, nice as the bubble bath, jammies, and dinner followed by tv gesture may be, if a man just wants to be intimate with his wife, he will often act pissy as you've described. It's no consolation to them. Ask him if he'd like to be intimate and see if he's still pissy-that's what I'd do.

[ShannaBee]

Sometimes men are grumpy and there is nothing we can do about it. My DH has days like this. Usually it's because of stress.

Hang in there. Every marriage has ups and downs.

[ruby_jewel_04]

Hahahah! I totally agree. I'm sorry, but being an ass to me all day wont get you laid. That'll get me to make your bed, ON THE COUCH. 

Quoting AnGLInterrupted:

I get what you're saying, but I'm sorry..  if my DH were to treat ME like that because he was wanting sex, then I'd hand him a bottle of lotion.  If he wants to be with me, then he's got to treat me like it..  not throw an all day tantrum.  I wouldn't want to have sex with him after dealing with that attitude all day!!  LOL

Quoting BrookieCookie1:

 WHen's the last time you guys had sex? In al honesty, it sounds like everything on his day off revolved around kids and housework, and if it's been a while, nice as the bubble bath, jammies, and dinner followed by tv gesture may be, if a man just wants to be intimate with his wife, he will often act pissy as you've described. It's no consolation to them. Ask him if he'd like to be intimate and see if he's still pissy-that's what I'd do.

[sbreece]

This!! Lol lay it on him one good time! Walk over to him and tell him to meet in the bedroom in 5 minutes, as soon as he walks in..make him take his pants off. Sounds like he needs a good BJ or maybe just some honest one on one time with you.

Quoting BrookieCookie1:

 WHen's the last time you guys had sex? In al honesty, it sounds like everything on his day off revolved around kids and housework, and if it's been a while, nice as the bubble bath, jammies, and dinner followed by tv gesture may be, if a man just wants to be intimate with his wife, he will often act pissy as you've described. It's no consolation to them. Ask him if he'd like to be intimate and see if he's still pissy-that's what I'd do.