This letter is intended for Christian women and ladies. I do NOT expect a non-Christian to follow these rules and guidelines. If you are a non-Christian you can feel free to continue reading and maybe even respect my plea, but I in now way expect it of you.
Dear Christian Women and Ladies,
I write this letter to you as a plea and as a lesson. Let me start with the plea.
My husband, like so so many other men, has a constant struggle with lust. Do not be fooled, even the most godly men can struggle with this sin. We all struggle with sin.Romans 3:23 states, "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." I believe that while we all sin and all sin is equal, I believe that we each may have certain sins we struggle with more. In our society sex and lust are all around. There are billboards, book, music, pictures, pornography, women, but it is a very sad thing when it can be found among Christians. Please, as a sister, a Christian, a woman, and a friend do not dress provocatively. Not only does it directly affect my relationship with my husband but it directly affects his walk with God. On the day of judgement we will each be held accountable for our actions. It is his choice to turn to God and to not give in to lust. In the same way, God tells us to not lead each other to sin, but to carry each other's burdens. Matthew 18:6-9, “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to stumble! Such things must come, but woe to the person through whom they come! If your hand or your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or crippled than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into eternal fire. And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell." Would you take a six pack to an AA meeting?
I know that the majority of times we are not even considering the ramifications on others. I don't think that many women dress provocatively in order to harm men. I think they dress that way in order to get attention and affection, but sadly the attention they receive is lust itself.It may sound cliche but beauty is not about the appearance. What men really want in a wife and a spouse is more focused on someone that respects, challenges, and loves him. Society wants us to believe that men only want and need a sexual being. Sex is an important and wonderful gift that God created for marriage.
Show your brothers-in-Christ love by protecting their eyes. 1 Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." Carry their burden and keep them in prayer. Our society has set up a battlefield for them. They are constantly being bombarded by these bombs and attacks. The church and in fellowship with other Christians should be a place of safety.
Also in dressing modestly, you can respect yourself and honor God. We are to honor and glorify God in all we do. 1 Corinthians 10:31 "So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do [dressing], do it all for the glory of God."
When I was in junior high, my youth pastors wife sat all the girls down. She made her plea for us to not lead her husband and the boys into sin. What she said had a lasting impact on me, and yet I had no idea that about fifteen years later I would be making the same plea.
Thank you for you prayers and support.
If you feel lead to, feel free to pass this letter on to anyone you know that needs to hear it.