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Dear Christian Women and Ladies

This letter is intended for Christian women and ladies. I do NOT expect a non-Christian to follow these rules and guidelines. If you are a non-Christian you can feel free to continue reading and maybe even respect my plea, but I in now way expect it of you. 


Dear Christian Women and Ladies, 


I write this letter to you as a plea and as a lesson. Let me start with the plea. 


My husband, like so so many other men, has a constant struggle with lust. Do not be fooled, even the most godly men can struggle with this sin. We all struggle with sin.Romans 3:23 states, "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." I believe that while we all sin and all sin is equal, I believe that we each may have certain sins we struggle with more. In our society sex and lust are all around. There are billboards, book, music, pictures, pornography, women, but it is a very sad thing when it can be found among Christians. Please, as a sister, a Christian, a woman, and a friend do not dress provocatively. Not only does it directly affect my relationship with my husband but it directly affects his walk with God. On the day of judgement we will each be held accountable for our actions. It is his choice to turn to God and to not give in to lust. In the same way, God tells us to not lead each other to sin, but to carry each other's burdens. Matthew 18:6-9, “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to stumble! Such things must come, but woe to the person through whom they come! If your hand or your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or crippled than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into eternal fire. And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell." Would you take a six pack to an AA meeting? 


I know that the majority of times we are not even considering the ramifications on others. I don't think that many women dress provocatively in order to harm men. I think they dress that way in order to get attention and affection, but sadly the attention they receive is lust itself.It may sound cliche but beauty is not about the appearance. What men really want in a wife and a spouse is more focused on someone that respects, challenges, and loves him. Society wants us to believe that men only want and need a sexual being. Sex is an important and wonderful gift that God created for marriage. 


Show your brothers-in-Christ love by protecting their eyes. 1 Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." Carry their burden and keep them in prayer. Our society has set up a battlefield for them. They are constantly being bombarded by these bombs and attacks. The church and in fellowship with other Christians should be a place of safety. 


Also in dressing modestly, you can respect yourself and honor God. We are to honor and glorify God in all we do. 1 Corinthians 10:31 "So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do [dressing], do it all for the glory of God." 


When I was in junior high, my youth pastors wife sat all the girls down. She made her plea for us to not lead her husband and the boys into sin. What she said had a lasting impact on me, and yet I had no idea that about fifteen years later I would be making the same plea. 


Thank you for you prayers and support. 


God Bless,
Faith


If you feel lead to, feel free to pass this letter on to anyone you know that needs to hear it. 

by on Jul. 24, 2012 at 1:04 PM
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JennPearce
by Jenn! on Jul. 24, 2012 at 6:43 PM
I don't think it's fair to blame it on the woman, unless her intent is to dress that way is to seduce the married man. Some women just have different taste in clothing & they wear it because it makes them feel good. Men need to be held accountable for their own actions & control their lusts & desires in a constructive, non-sinful way.
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Momof5kids84
by Lauren on Jul. 24, 2012 at 10:51 PM
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Lol. I know. Apparently, it's our job to keep her husband's pants on.

Quoting mom_of_one_2010:

Oh please, I am HAPPYLIE married. Like I would steal anyone's dh. It's not my problem That they cheat. I will worry about me n mine they can worry about them & theirs


Quoting Momof5kids84:

No, this post is saying that it will attract other men to cheat whether it be physical or mental. Basically, you might steal her husband.

Quoting mom_of_one_2010:

So your telling me to stop dressing in what I feel comfortable on my body because it will cause my husband to cheat? Omfg your joking right! My husband is very satisfied at home, he has his lunch made every morning, dinner is ready when he gets home, I don't bug him with stuff I can handle when he gets off, I do the shopping & bill paying for him.





Will I apologies for the way I dress? No. Will I be sorry that im comfortable in my body? No



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mrsalaboosi3
by on Jul. 25, 2012 at 9:40 AM
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That's nice, and I do agree. BUT, your husband is accountable for his actions. He can't use the excuse :"the women was dressed provocatively, that's why I slept with her". That would mean he has no self-control (which is the fruitage of gods spirit-Galatians 5:22, 22.) And also remember that every women in the world is not Christian, or a practicing Christian, so the will not all live up to the Bibles command on modesty. That's when your husband has to be in control of himself and take responsibility for his actions. So the post was a nice reminder, but you really should be preaching to your husband about a man has already committed adultery in his heart by looking at another women therefore its a sin. Your husband seems to be the one with the issues not the women.
blondieof3kids
by on Jul. 25, 2012 at 9:46 AM

Thank you for sharing this.  I have forwarded this to my daughters and friends.....

God bless,

Patricia

blondieof3kids
by on Jul. 25, 2012 at 9:49 AM

It is a good read and i did pass it along to my kids and friends but i do believe that the man is accountable for his actions just like a woman is - it goes hand and hand..... meaning, a married woman who lusts after a man w/a six pack gut, etc.....

Quoting mrsalaboosi3:

That's nice, and I do agree. BUT, your husband is accountable for his actions. He can't use the excuse :"the women was dressed provocatively, that's why I slept with her". That would mean he has no self-control (which is the fruitage of gods spirit-Galatians 5:22, 22.) And also remember that every women in the world is not Christian, or a practicing Christian, so the will not all live up to the Bibles command on modesty. That's when your husband has to be in control of himself and take responsibility for his actions. So the post was a nice reminder, but you really should be preaching to your husband about a man has already committed adultery in his heart by looking at another women therefore its a sin. Your husband seems to be the one with the issues not the women.


mrsalaboosi3
by on Jul. 25, 2012 at 9:54 AM
Quoting blondieof3kids:



yes I agree as well. But my point was that not all women are religious women who know to dress modestly. I know, and the women here seem to know, but not all. So the husband being a married man, knows his responsibilities to himself, his wife and God. He has to be strong and look past the temptation. And if he is a god-fearing person, he will only have eyes for his wife, and have complete self control.
blondieof3kids
by on Jul. 25, 2012 at 10:02 AM

I understand what you are saying, by all means, I do. We live in a college town USA if you know what i mean and there is young hot looking females everywhere we go and its an temptation of course it is and I trust my SO not to act on his temptations and he trusts me too.  Its an act of respect not to lust after the opposite sex if one does its a disrespect to God and to his wife


 

Quoting mrsalaboosi3:

Quoting blondieof3kids:



yes I agree as well. But my point was that not all women are religious women who know to dress modestly. I know, and the women here seem to know, but not all. So the husband being a married man, knows his responsibilities to himself, his wife and God. He has to be strong and look past the temptation. And if he is a god-fearing person, he will only have eyes for his wife, and have complete self control.


kkiphen
by on Jul. 25, 2012 at 10:02 AM
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Being a youth pastor i agree and hear what you are saying having every year had this same conversation with my girls! Hope and pray people will listen at least and thinl about it.
mrsalaboosi3
by on Jul. 25, 2012 at 10:04 AM
Quoting blondieof3kids:



Amen! :)
abigailesmommy
by on Jul. 25, 2012 at 10:19 AM

I understand it is him that is accountable... "On the day of judgement we will each be held accountable for our actions. It is his choice to turn to God and to not give in to lust. In the same way, God tells us to not lead each other to sin, but to carry each other's burdens."

He does need to have selfcontrol and I wasn't trying to say that he lusts after every female. I was more saying that not only are men accountable but as Christians we too are accountable for our choices and in glorifying God through our choices. 

Quoting mrsalaboosi3:

That's nice, and I do agree. BUT, your husband is accountable for his actions. He can't use the excuse :"the women was dressed provocatively, that's why I slept with her". That would mean he has no self-control (which is the fruitage of gods spirit-Galatians 5:22, 22.) And also remember that every women in the world is not Christian, or a practicing Christian, so the will not all live up to the Bibles command on modesty. That's when your husband has to be in control of himself and take responsibility for his actions. So the post was a nice reminder, but you really should be preaching to your husband about a man has already committed adultery in his heart by looking at another women therefore its a sin. Your husband seems to be the one with the issues not the women.


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