My husband has recently discovered he is bi which i am fine with. I even gave him permission to have his first encounter sexually with a guy. Are marriage is amazing we value each other as a person and he never does anything past the rules of the family as do i.~Anybody else in this situation or are we just that unique as a couple?if you do what are some of your rules on the whole matter?
^^^^^^^ those are the qeastions if you can not answer those please pass right by me thank you
~edit~ i am well aware of the risks i am taking i have thought about this from every angle imaginable. I have asked myself all the what ifs? I have even thought about the kids. i can fully trust my husband as i know its all about sex nothing emotional he has already figured that part out before he asked what he did. He knows that are marriage comes first it has always has and we have had a open relationship sense we married 4 years ago and its what makes us stronger because we have to get down and communicate on a much deeper level. another thing these last 4 years allowed me to be bi and have my own exploits and such its ok but the second a guy wants too its bad. and yes to the more traditional couple (which we never have been) he is cheating. we all have to walk our own paths but please dont judge my paths and i wont judge yours as one seeks guidance from others on similar paths.
Quoting hismommy2010:I realize you don't want to be bashed, nor do you want to hear people's objections to it. But you posted this in an open public forum. So of course people are going to read it and automatically have their opinions on it.
If it works for you two, then whatever. but I think you are both fooling yourselfs. You may think it's great now, and that it won't hurt anything, but MOCK my words , there WILL be a day in your marriage down the road, where it WILL be an issue. and you will regret doing this at all.
Even more so, because of your kid(s).
Trust in that!
Quoting samurai_chica:i hate to be a snot, but just a friendly reminder that when speaking of something that is yours it is "OURS" not "are"..."are" is used differently...as in you ARE married to a gay man.
"That is OUR ball".....it's not.... "that is ARE ball"
Just make note for future posts.
LMBO! It was bothering me too, along with all the other mistakes
Quoting hismommy2010:I realize you don't want to be bashed, nor do you want to hear people's objections to it. But you posted this in an open public forum. So of course people are going to read it and automatically have their opinions on it.
If it works for you two, then whatever. but I think you are both fooling yourselfs. You may think it's great now, and that it won't hurt anything, but MOCK my words , there WILL be a day in your marriage down the road, where it WILL be an issue. and you will regret doing this at all.
Even more so, because of your kid(s).
Trust in that!
Just as an FYI... it's mark, as in take note of, not mock. You're asking her to make fun of what you're saying, and emphasizing it. I'm in a poly relationship, so I disagree that she will absolutely regret it one day down the line, and you can't be certain of it either. It could turn out to be the best thing that happened to their marriage one day, and they'll sit on their front porch in matching rocking chairs, reminiscing. :)
In all things of nature, there is something of the marvelous.
~Aristotle
I wasn't mean. I See no need to pussyfoot around the situation or handle you with kid gloves out of 'respect' or fear of upsetting your sensibilities. I have no respect for your choices, for your 'marriage', for your sensibilities ... for any of it. That's terrible no else had the guts to make a definitive statement.
Quoting tinkerspell:
I was aware i might get bashed a bit and eveeyone has there opinions.i have read all of these responses and no one out of 79 responses had to state there opinion like that we have been able to talk and answer qeastions like in a good discussion and i have reapected and enjoyed it as well there was no need for it people can state there opinion fine ok but they dont need to be mean about it
Quoting hismommy2010:I realize you don't want to be bashed, nor do you want to hear people's objections to it. But you posted this in an open public forum. So of course people are going to read it and automatically have their opinions on it.
If it works for you two, then whatever. but I think you are both fooling yourselfs. You may think it's great now, and that it won't hurt anything, but MOCK my words , there WILL be a day in your marriage down the road, where it WILL be an issue. and you will regret doing this at all.
Even more so, because of your kid(s).
Trust in that!
Quoting unsuspected:I wasn't mean. I See no need to pussyfoot around the situation or handle you with kid gloves out of 'respect' or fear of upsetting your sensibilities. I have no respect for your choices, for your 'marriage', for your sensibilities ... for any of it. That's terrible no else had the guts to make a definitive statement.
Quoting tinkerspell:
I was aware i might get bashed a bit and eveeyone has there opinions.i have read all of these responses and no one out of 79 responses had to state there opinion like that we have been able to talk and answer qeastions like in a good discussion and i have reapected and enjoyed it as well there was no need for it people can state there opinion fine ok but they dont need to be mean about it
Quoting hismommy2010:I realize you don't want to be bashed, nor do you want to hear people's objections to it. But you posted this in an open public forum. So of course people are going to read it and automatically have their opinions on it.
If it works for you two, then whatever. but I think you are both fooling yourselfs. You may think it's great now, and that it won't hurt anything, but MOCK my words , there WILL be a day in your marriage down the road, where it WILL be an issue. and you will regret doing this at all.
Even more so, because of your kid(s).
Trust in that!
Does your DH/SO....
Who do you love more,your husband or kids
- tinkerspell
on Jul. 25, 2012 at 5:25 PM