First of all let me say I'm very happily married. So please no nasty comments about this reflecting on the state of my marriage. But in my past relationship with my ex finance who I have two children with, I begged and pleaded for YEARS for him to take part in well, life, with me and with our children. We wouldn't do ANYTHING with us. I always worked so I took advantage of weekends to take the girls on trips to the zoo or beach or water park or anything fun that was a break from our normal routine. He always flat out refused. Either said he was too busy (which was b.s.) or said he wanted to get yard work done or get work around the house done, etc. He NEVER sat down to a meal with us at home. If he did come home to eat he would stand at the stove and pick at the food like it wasn't worth the effort of filling a plate. I cooked large elaborate breakfasts every weekend and he never ever would eat with us. Now that we have been apart for a while and I am married he has become "super dad". Takes the girls to the zoo, beach (which he claimed to hate), etc. He and his new girlfriend spent the entire day yesterday with the girls in the pool and then barbecued together and this morning the girls called me and they were all sitting down to breakfast together. Yes I'm happy with my husband but he is not as close to my daughters as I would like and once again I am watching an ex do ALL the things I begged for with someone else! Does it make me a petty person that I resent all this time he is now able to give our daughters and his new someone? Is it wrong that I feel like I just wasn't good enough for his to take the time? I love my husband and I truly am happy in our life together. But sometimes I think if my ex had been willing to do any of this when we were together we might have lasted and would be raising our children together instead of splitting holidays and weekends!