I left him for a little while when our son was 3 days old. I believe it helped us, because it was what spurred us to go to therapy, which helped us learn how to communicate better. I learned that he treated his job as his first priority, because that was what his parents demonstrated to him (he never stopped to think that his parents actually discussed his father's work schedule, just not around him, so his mother DID get a say), and he learned why I was so touchy about being treated as a respected partner, instead of just an employee. It also taught him that I was serious when I told him that while I would take a lot of crap from him, I would never allow him to behave that way with our child. We have both grown so much since then, and I am very proud of us. I love that man with all my heart, and he goes above and beyond to make sure I feel loved by him.
Yes, we were seperated for about 4 months and got back together stayed for another 8 years and then divorced (my first hubby) couldn't try to hang onto something that was never there to begin with - it takes TWO to try to save the marriage or any relationship
I actually divorced my husband. About 2 weeks after our divorce was final we started making moves towards being back together. That was a long process, 6 months of back and forth deciding what we really wanted, then I moved back in and we continued counseling and 2 months later I re-married him, continued counseling and now its been a year and we are better than ever!
So yes, it helped. We both had significant others and time to reflect, and realized we were just meant to be, with a little tweaking :)
Quoting blondieof3kids:Yes, we were seperated for about 4 months and got back together stayed for another 8 years and then divorced (my first hubby) couldn't try to hang onto something that was never there to begin with - it takes TWO to try to save the marriage or any relationship
I broke up with my hubby (but he was my boyfriend then) after about 3 months into our relationship. That only lasted about 7 days and yeah it made our relationship stronger. Then i left (we weren't married then either but living together and had a new baby) for about 2 days and we got married about a month after that. I'm guessing it just depends on the people. Each time we separated it wasn't something we'd talked about doing and then both decided to go ahead and separate. Plus, it never lasted more than a week and my hubby ALWAYS came and got me and brought me back. That was over 10 years ago and we haven't had any separations since we've been married.
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DH and I broke up after we had been together for almost 3 years. We went through a lot and it came down to this:we had to move out of the apt we were in, I wanted to buy a house and we had been looking then one day he said he wasnt ready to buy a house. He moved back in with his mom and I moved in with a family friend. Two weeks later he called to tell me how much he missed me, I ended up staying with him a lot and finally just moved in with him (at his moms, lol, then we went through a bunch more with him being out of work for a while and we each have a kid that we have full custody of...long stories all around), he proposed shortly after. That was almost 6 years ago, we got married a year and a half ago just because we didn't want to wait anymore, we went to the town hall. The past year and a half has been the best of our relationship, but the past 6 years were way better than the first 3. That break up took sooo much willpower on my part, it was so hard not to call him, not to mention how close I had been to my SD and I had to be away from her too. It was rough. But he missed me and that is what we both needed. I knew how much I loved him but he didn't quite know how much he loved me.
Good luck, I hope whatever you choose to do works out the best way for you. I always figure everything happens for a reason and if it's meant to be, it will be.
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