Long story short...my mom was a rape victim and always had me aware of men.I wasn't around my real dad that much so I mostly just learned thing from my mom.anyways I recently stayed with my mom for 21/2 months while my husband was away for training (he is a marine) while I was visiting my daughter(3 years old) said "peanut jelly" but when she first said it,it sounded like "penis daddy"she also said it while drinking out of a sippy cup.so both my mother and I thought that was odd and that's when I started questioning her.Later on that day she said it again when we were making peanut butter jelly sandwiches.So I know that's what she ment.but by that point I already questioned her and talked to my mom about it.I asked my mom if she thought he could do something like that and she said "yes she thinks so because he is a very sexual person" now let me explain...I talk to my mom about everything.and yes my husband likes sex but nothing weird or anything to make me think that of him.anyways when he came home and I was alone with my daughter she told me daddy touched her toot.I was in shock.however I feel that's cause I put that in her head.anyways again long story short...I have been questioning her a lot and she has been saying a lot of weird things that sound sexual now.its caused a lot of problems between my husband and I.just to make sure nothing happend I took my daughter to doctors and I have her in therapy.I even took her to CPS! They all seem to think nothing like that happend to her and that it sounds like I asked her leading questions.so should I just give in and be happy with my husband and our beautiful family we made together? I want to be happy and feel normal.I want my kids safe.if I were to get a divorce with no proof of anything he would get 50% custudy.so that won't help out any! I wouldn't know what was going on at all then! And I would also ruin my marriage if nothing even happend.and FYI I would leave in a heartbeat if I knew this happend.
Fyi... i brought this up to him the other night.when my daughter was about 8 months old i asked him to watch our daughter real fast while i took a shower and later on i saw he was looking at porn while he watched her.he said "she was still young and it wasn't like i was showing it to her." he didn't want to say he was wrong but he did say he never did it again and never would.So these are the things i feel are odd.But like i said she was 8 months old and thats the only time i ever caught him at that.