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I'm curious as to what 'rule(s)' you and your Husband set when you got married.

Ours is:

NEVER say you want a divorce no matter how mad you are unless you mean it.


by on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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angeleyes16
by Member on Aug. 4, 2012 at 11:38 AM

No rules really. We both know that we're not going to put up with any bullshit. No cheating, dis-respecting, lying, ect.

HopefulMommy89
by on Aug. 4, 2012 at 11:40 AM
Same here. And we both know that divorce is totally out of the question (that was a promise we made before we even got engaged), so we both have to be good about communication so we can stay on top of any issues.

Quoting beeky:

Apart from the unspoken rule concerning fidelity, we don't have any and we don't need them.

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mama2gg
by on Aug. 4, 2012 at 11:44 AM

mine-

ill never work a job i dont enjoy

his-

no divorce ever

we agreed too both

Cowgirl_Coyote
by on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:04 PM

I'm hoping to get a Kindle when we hit our six month mark, which will be next month. I love to read and he complains about my massive book collection. The only debt we really have are student loans but they are mostly paid off. We inheireted some money when his grandmother died so we paid most of them off and put the rest in savings.We also have medical bills because we just had a baby.

Quoting gilbertgrl627:

Yup, this is one of ours, too. DH and I were both in debt when we got married (lol, not because of the wedding) and we could barely afford payments. We did end up paying it off and we vowed never to get in that kind of debt again. Any big purchases need to be discussed beforehand. We like to keep each other in check when it comes to finances.

Quoting Cowgirl_Coyote:

There are always going to be conditions to any relationship, not to loving each other, but for each other's sanity

  • Neither of us are allowed to spend more the $100 without the other agreeing to it first, unless it's groceries or an emergency home repair. Also, every six months, we save $100 each so that we can each get something special for ourselves that is not for a birthday or christmas. We'll see how that holds up though, since we just had our frist child.


  • We (mostly me) are not allowed to bring home any more animals without the other agreeing to it first, which, in the case of rehoming strays, he normally doesn't care. (this rule is because, while we were on our honeymoon, my flip flops broke so I went to WalMart to get some new ones and I arrived back at the hotel with an Australian Shepherd puppy) We have five dogs, three cats, plus the farm animals, and I am a sucker for puppies and kittens so we are in agreement on this.


  • I keep my five year old niece during the week while her parents work and she will sometimes spend the night when she doesn't have school. My husband has just asked that she not spend the night on Saturday or Sunday night, since Sunday is the only day that we both have off of work. Otherwise, he loves spending time with her. There are always exceptions to the rule, in emergency cases. Last summer, her mother's apendix ruptured and my brother had to rush her to the hospital. Kayla stayed with us for several days so that my brother could stay with my sister in law at the hospital. For that, he had no problem with her staying over on a Sunday. She also stayed the weekend with us when her parents went out of town for my sister-in-law's cousin's funeral.


Other then that, I can't think of any that are acutally spoken. There are always the unspoken ones, like no cheating, no hitting, no going to bed mad, no threatening divorce, ect.



Elle.tea.22
by on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:08 PM
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No screaming unless the house is on fire
Mommy4000
by Bronze Member on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:09 PM

We have certain standards that we expect in our relationship. Normal ones, no cheating (which we both defined with each other), no drugs, no other illegal activity, respect, courtesy, communication, patience. Of course not all of these are divorce worthy, but they are standards that we expect of each other.

Briyawna
by on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:14 PM

Don't really have any rules here.. other than the obvious no cheating and no lying about serious things.

beaularson91
by Member on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:17 PM

the obvious one..no cheating....and no arguing in front of the kids

DannieLou
by Member on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:20 PM
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No "d" word, ever! I've had one, he's had 2. This is our forever!

We never go to bed angry. We tell each other we love each other before we leave the house because you never know what will happen.
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JadsW
by on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:21 PM
No rules. We're just considerate & respectful towards each other & if one of us isn't, we argue. lol
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