My husband and I have had an issue with his facebook usage for a couple years now. I get upset about him looking up random girls facebook pages and just looking at their pictures. I just feel it's really creepy and perverted thing to do. Most of the girls are ones he has met at work, or like just friends of friends. Some are young, like 17 or 18. We are both in our 30s. I have talked with him numerous times about why this upsets me. He even admitted to me that he sometimes fantasizes about certain girls instead of looking at porn. I have no issue with porn at all and up until this facebook thing we had sex on a very frequent basis. I'm just not sure what to do about it. He will stop doing it for a while then I will notice he has searched differnt girls names etc. I hate to keep confronting him about it when he obviosuly doesn't care about my feelings on the issue. I even went so far as to block some of the girls pages he went to most often so he couldn't aceess them but then he would just go to different girls pages. Any advice here I really am at my wits end as to what to do with him. It is making me not even want to be affectionate to him. I have lost alot of trust and do not feel attracted to him much at all after this.
EDIT: So I brought this up to my husband again, and told him in no uncertain terms I would not accept this going on in our relationship. And if he planned to continue being married to me he would get rid of his facebook(since all he really used it for was this anyway) and he would go with me to counseling. He at first came across like I was attacking him and calling him a terrible person etc. Which isnt how I intended for it to come out. I then sent him an email explaining it better since I could proofread it before sending it. Giving him a very detailed explanation of how it made me feel and that it had to stop. At first he tried to defend it saying people are different and just because i think its wrong doesn't mean it is etc and that if i asked a group of guys instead of girls they would all say it was normal. Then i kinda blew up at him again and said ok if its normal for you to do it I still cannot accept it and you can start sleeping on the couch because I don't want to share a bed with someone who thinks thats normal. We talked a while more and he decided he would go to couples counseling and said he only said it was normal because he was defensive about me thinking hes a bad person. So I told him to make the appt, I don't want to do it all for him so its like I'm totally forcing him. I want him to know that our relationship needs help and we have to start making changes. Hope it works this time. Thank you all for your adivce :)