If you had a child before you met your current husband..
Should you be allowed to talk to your ex about the child you had together???
I ask because I had a child with my ex BEFORE I ever even met my husband. And while my husband and I were just dating, he made a HUGE deal about me talking to my ex. I understand now because at the time, my ex was manipulating me and it hindered my relationship with my boyfriend. But now I have realized my mistakes and it isn't like that anymore.
I have been married to my husband for over a year and my ex has custody of our child. But any time I text my ex about our son, my husband gets VERY upset with me. (I've been avoiding it, and talking to my mom about my son instead because she gets to visit him) but that isn't often at all.
I decided to text my ex today and he was kind enough to send me a picture of my son today because I messaged him and I want to do this more often so I'll get to know more about how my son is growing up, but I'm afraid of what my husband will think.
Any advice? And please no bashing. I simply decided my ex would raise my son because he has more money and more family with him and my son will have a life better than I could provide when it comes to the financial stuff.
Im sorry and I know people will think I am bashing and I am not trying to but there is more if you cant even see him. The "he was kind enough to send me a picture"?? No sorry. There is alot more. Your husband is getting in between you and your child and that might be why you dont have him to begin with but YOU are letting him do it. YOU are putting your husbands feelings before your kid. Sorry but thats wrong. Good luck. You are going to need it. Again I am not trying to bash but it kinda sounds like you need a little wake up call.
Quoting mrsssb:Im sorry and I know people will think I am bashing and I am not trying to but there is more if you cant even see him. The "he was kind enough to send me a picture"?? No sorry. There is alot more. Your husband is getting in between you and your child and that might be why you dont have him to begin with but YOU are letting him do it. YOU are putting your husbands feelings before your kid. Sorry but thats wrong. Good luck. You are going to need it. Again I am not trying to bash but it kinda sounds like you need a little wake up call.
No I understand. Thank you. My child lives a couple states away where we lived together before, we moved to where we are now to start a whole new life but we ended up in a custody battle and I decided to be the bigger person and put down my side of the fight for the sake of my child. Since then my ex has been nicer to me but I still don't get to see or talk to my baby unless he's with my mother once a week or every two weeks. I want to set up better communication with my ex for my son, but again, I'm not strong engouh to "put my husband in his place" about this.
Quoting mrsssb:Im sorry and I know people will think I am bashing and I am not trying to but there is more if you cant even see him. The "he was kind enough to send me a picture"?? No sorry. There is alot more. Your husband is getting in between you and your child and that might be why you dont have him to begin with but YOU are letting him do it. YOU are putting your husbands feelings before your kid. Sorry but thats wrong. Good luck. You are going to need it. Again I am not trying to bash but it kinda sounds like you need a little wake up call.
Quoting PinkHairMAMA:
He's your CHILD!!! I'm sorry but in the book of Mom your responsibility goes to the child that you made BEFORE your new husband!!
Tell your husband to stop being an immature child and get over it or kick rocks!
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- AnotherPutra
on Aug. 9, 2012 at 3:00 PM