See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
My husband of 6 1/2 years walked out on me and the kids a lil over 2 weeks ago. He keeps saying that he hasn't gotten a lawyer or even thought about filing. He went to Florida (1200 miles away from us) and says that once he gets a job and his own place he'll be ready to move forward. Last Thursday we talked and he said that he hasn't gotten a lawyer or filed because a small part of him thinks there's a chance we might get back together. This week he completely denies saying that. We had a conversation yesterday about working things out and he said "I'm pretty sure it's over..no I'm 100% sure our marriage is completely over" Then today he says that he needs time to think about some stuff before he can think about us working things out. I asked him if he doesn't see how confusing he is. He got defensive and said that he's not confusing he's firm with his decision and what he said yesterday is 100% what he wants. I told him if that's the case he can't sit here today and say that he needs time to think about things and maybe thinking about working things out. He said that for him working things out means us having a good relationship for the kids' sakes. I've told him a hundred times that for me the phrase "working things out" means trying to fix our marriage and that the word "relationship" as it pertains to me and him to me is our marriage..that's the only relationship there is with him for me. I told him that I don't need to have any kind of relationship with him in order to just be nice to him for the kids' sake.
My parents,and a few friends think that he's gonna get himself together (job,own place) and then file and try to take the kids. So after I got off the phone with him this morning and called legal aid so I can try and get some help so I can just file. If he's 100% done there's no sense in me sitting here and hoping he'll change his mind. I haven't mentioned to him at all that I was even thinking about going ahead and filing so I know he won't be expecting it. It just really sucks because I want nothing more then to fix my marriage.