Do you think that its a big deal if i 21 question my husband on his location at all times? It's cuz everytime i question him he gets mad bcuz im always questioning him i dont see the big deal bcuz he does the exact same thing to me & i'm his wife so i think i have a right to knw. We always get into bcuz of it & he tells me its cuz he's not use to having someone tell him wut to do. Aye help i dnt want to seem like a nagging wife all the time! which is wut im becoming this is not me!
If it's a trust issue, you guys have to work up to trusting each other again beccause it's not healthy to always be checking in on each other.
Quoting MAmAsiitA0223:
Quoting LadyBugMom09:
Why do you feel the need to know exactly where he is at all times?
Well we have had issues in the past and well i just dont want him to lie to me. He's always asking me where im at & who im With.
Quoting MAmAsiitA0223:
Quoting LadyBugMom09:
Why do you feel the need to know exactly where he is at all times?
Well we have had issues in the past and well i just dont want him to lie to me. He's always asking me where im at & who im With.
Then give him a taste of his own medicine, and don't tell him.
I think it's considerate to tell the other where you're going, with who, and what time you think you'll be home. Is this all you're asking? Or are you calling and texting umpteen times while he's out? I know I certainly would be irritated and annoyed by that.
Whether or not this is true, constantly asking him where he is and who he's with is telling him that you don't trust him. I would get mad too if my DH were constantly asking me questions like that.
If you do trust him, you do have a right to know where he is, so ask, but just one question and leave it alone.
If you don't trust him, both of you need to figure out why and how to get over it (possibly with counseling) because if you don't have trust, your relationship can't last.
Good luck!
Im sorry you two hae trust issues. Just remember...if he is going to do something, he is going to do it no matter if you ask or not. Asking isnt going to stop him from doing so if he is going to do something you wouldnt like
Quoting MAmAsiitA0223:
Quoting LadyBugMom09:
Why do you feel the need to know exactly where he is at all times?
Well we have had issues in the past and well i just dont want him to lie to me. He's always asking me where im at & who im With.
If you do it all the time then yes, it is an issue. you dont need to know exactly where he is every second of the day. For dh and I a simple, "I'm going to ___, maybe will go ___, will be back later" does just fine. I trust him enough to feel comfortable that he is where he says and if he isnt there that he has a good reason why.
Do you not trust your dh? By constantly asking where he is and what he is doing sends that message.
My husband always tells me where he's at, at all times and has never gotten annoyed. I don't see why its a big deal....but if your asking because you don't trust him, that might be another story.
Dh and my argument today made me so mad, and realized he is lazy
- MAmAsiitA0223
on Aug. 10, 2012 at 3:29 PM