My husband is an Emt and works alone all day in an ambulance with a woman. Lately my husband has started being emotionally distant and seems angry all the time. I've tried to talk with him about it but he says nothing is wrong. I try to talk with him and connect with him but it feels like there is nothing left to the marriage and I know from things he has said that he discussed our relationship problems with the woman he works with and apparently she discusses her relationship with him because he is always using examples of "well in so in so's marriage they do this" they stop by her house several times a day sometimes when her husband is there and sometimes not, she cooks for himself and offers him some he says he doesn't go in when they are there but he used to call when they stopped there and now he never does. We bumped into her and her husband while out for dinner and after we walked away from them she texted him to invite us over for socializing after dinner and most of the time she talked about my husband more than hers. She has occasionally started to text him on his days off thanking him for taking the majority of the work the night before and now it seems like everytime he goes to work he starts an argument with me. I don't think he interested in her per say but it's hard to say because he has also started wearing his best cologne to work and will shave the nights before he has to work but when he's around me he doesn't even bother to shave so I find this a little strange. With the emotional distance between us and the fact that he is sharing our relationship information with her along with his disinterest in me I feel like whether he means to or not he is having an emotional affair and our marriage is suffering because of it. Would you consider this an emotional affair or am I being crazy?
on Aug. 10, 2012 at 11:20 PM