Lately all me and BF have been doing is fighting.. Even to the point were we both agreed we no longer want to get married but want to work things out. It's gotten to the point where he took more hours and even hangs out after work for 2 more hours than he has to because he doesn't want to come home... He hates that we can't live alone and now that I agreed he said no and said that he feels like he's settling because we stay with my mom (who he doesn't care for because of past issues) I just don't know what to do anymore. He says he loves me still and can't picture himself without me but I now I'm wondering if it's because he really loves me or stays because that's all he knows ( we've been together since we were 15). I know this is more of a vent but please any advice would be great..
Thanks
I think it's great that you and your mom are helping each other. I didn't get along with my mil when she was well, but when she got sick I put all that aside and tried to help take care of her. If he can't put the past aside when she has cancer it doesn't sound to me like he is the caring person you would want to marry. That is just my opinion. Plus the way he stays out when he gets off of work so he won't have to come home. Think long and hard before you marry him. You might decide you would be doing the wrong thing. Good Luck
Quoting PinkHairMAMA:
Even of you started your meds back would you still stay with your mom because of her cancer?
Quoting DixieL:I think it's great that you and your mom are helping each other. I didn't get along with my mil when she was well, but when she got sick I put all that aside and tried to help take care of her. If he can't put the past aside when she has cancer it doesn't sound to me like he is the caring person you would want to marry. That is just my opinion. Plus the way he stays out when he gets off of work so he won't have to come home. Think long and hard before you marry him. You might decide you would be doing the wrong thing. Good Luck
Hello there. I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this! I can understand how you would feel a little lost!
I'm not one to really give advice (I prefer to ask for it). But I can tell you that, while you may love him and he may love you, you definately don't want things to end on a ba note! You do have a child together and will be tied together for the rest of your lives by her. Have you thought about just taking a break for a while? Maybe he just needs a little perspective. If you were apart for a while you may get along better in the long run.
Then if you decide to get back together it would be with the knowledge that you cannot live with out each other.
Quoting autism2x:Hello there. I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this! I can understand how you would feel a little lost!
I'm not one to really give advice (I prefer to ask for it). But I can tell you that, while you may love him and he may love you, you definately don't want things to end on a ba note! You do have a child together and will be tied together for the rest of your lives by her. Have you thought about just taking a break for a while? Maybe he just needs a little perspective. If you were apart for a while you may get along better in the long run.
Then if you decide to get back together it would be with the knowledge that you cannot live with out each other.
Rough! Having to not take Epilepsy meds because of breastfeeding??? In this case I would pick my poisons and go with taking meds and using formula with supplements. I wish you all the best. Luv n happiness your way momma!
Quoting MrsMedina90:
He is nice to her etc and does things for her when she ask but he won't actually try build a relationship with her. They never fight but it's the things she did to me that he can't forgive.. He use to be a caring person and I understand that he's stressed. Hes been working at he same job for 5 years and promised promotions that never come so that's apart of his depression... I just miss him, the person he was before all this. We're not going to get married, I can't marry him when he doesn't even know what he wants from himself. Thanks though.
Quoting DixieL:
I think it's great that you and your mom are helping each other. I didn't get along with my mil when she was well, but when she got sick I put all that aside and tried to help take care of her. If he can't put the past aside when she has cancer it doesn't sound to me like he is the caring person you would want to marry. That is just my opinion. Plus the way he stays out when he gets off of work so he won't have to come home. Think long and hard before you marry him. You might decide you would be doing the wrong thing. Good Luck
Your Welcome. I know how he feels about his work My son is in the same boat. He has been at his job six years and they have promised over and over again that they were going to make him a manager. It has gotten so bad that he is sick to his stomach all the time.Good Luck in what you decide to do
It must be very hard to live with your mother in law,and 2 extra kids,put yourself in his shoes,and try to move out soon.
When you met your dh/so?
- MrsMedina90
on Aug. 11, 2012 at 5:07 AM