We just moved here. The kids and I came down in March and he joined us in June after our son graduated from high school. Our son chose to remain behind and start tech school to learn to be an electrician. I know he is really missing our son (he has always played favorites with this particular child and its no secret to anyone) and he has said that he is sorry we moved here, but we really had no choice. There were no jobs there that could support a family. He got a really good job within a month of us moving here and we have rented a nice house and just have gotten all settled in. So, I sat down at the computer earlier and found several screens open. They were various job listings and ads for apartments-1 bd/1ba-back in our old state. At first I thought he might be looking to help our son find a new place to live, but the job listings were very obviously for him. One of the kids called me away from the computer for a few minutes and when I came back, the screens were closed and he had erased the browsing history. He has been very touchy and irritable the last few days and earlier he got really angry over a stupid little thing (he had asked me to get some batteries for the remote when I was at the store and I forgot) and started yelling at me that I have done nothing but make his life miserable. While I was putting kids to bed, he went in and went to bed and fell asleep all rolled up in his blankets and practically falling off the bed he was clinging so tight to the other side from mine. He usually lays awake watching TV until I come to bed.
For the first time, I am really scared. With 4 kids still at home, I have no idea how I would support us if he leaves. And from the job listings he was looking at, he sure isn't working to find a job that he could afford child support on. Every one of them barely paid enough to support him alone. I do office temp work, so I will often only work for a week or two at a time and then have several weeks off. I don't have much earning power. About the best I can manage is about $10-11 per hour. I'd have to work 2 jobs just to keep a roof over the kids heads. Then who would raise my kids? I am trying to be angry, but I am just tired.
Update: He left for work really early this morning and I found his wedding ring sitting on the table in front of the framed picture of us that sits on his night table. I can't remember a day when he left for work without kissing me goodbye. If I am still asleep, he will even come over and wake me up enough to let me know he is leaving.
I am so confused! My husband got home from work (yes, he did come home) and pretty much ignored everyone all evening. Our daughters and I had plan for the evening so I was gone and the boys just played computer games all evening (no homework got done) and I out them to bed -quite late-when I got home. He left early again the next morning. When he got home last night, he acted like nothing was wrong. He brought me roses, and said he thought he lost his wedding ring. It must have fallen off. His ring is so snug, that he has to really work at it to get it off. There is no way it could have come off by accident. I told him I had it and he acted relieved and asked for it back. I tried to talk to him and he refused to admit that anything was wrong. He said he was was just cranky because he was tired. I referred to the fight and he acted like he had no idea what I was talking about. I asked about the computer search and he said whatever it was-he didn't know what I was talking about-but I must have misinterpreted what I saw. When I tried to press the issue, he stopped, gave me THAT LOOK and said "Just leave it alone." and refuses to even talk about it. I decided that this time, it is in the best interests of me and the kids to just drop it. But I'll be watching.