Hey, everyone. I'm new to the group. My marriage isn't the best and we've been close to divorce a lot. We have been married for 2 years now. We have 2 kids with one on the way. My husband is a compulsive liar and I will never believe anything he says to me. He doesn't make much and gets paid weekly. He cashes his check before he gets home and has already spent the money we would need. Any money that I put aside from his check to save he grabs it and blows that, too. One week we only had $6 for diapers and that was all to the name of our family. There are no shopping bags coming home when he returns. He spends it somewhere in the world. I don't put cheating/prostitution, giving the money to his aunt, drinking, or anything else out of thought. He has done it all and more.
My husband never gives me an explanation and goes around it. He gives me the same lines each time.
"I need you to help me break the habit."
"I need you to come with me in the bank to cash my checks."
"We need to set a bugdet."
"I need to change jobs and make more money."
I'm just so tired of this. I'm not happy in the marriage. I know he's lying to me. I'm pregnant and due in November. We have nothing for this baby because he has blown our money. Christmas is coming shortly after and I'm scared we won't have anything for that, too. Our other kids don't get anything from him really, but lunch food. My parents have been helping us a lot and I feel ashamed. He just gets mad because he can't claim them in his taxes for a check to spend. My money is out and has been out since May. I'm trying to work everything out, but I'm losing it. With my last pregnancy, I was the one who paid for most of everything. He was still blowing money. He doesn't care about anything or anyone but himself.
Aside from that, he is always trying to get out of the house. I don't know when he gets off of work and apparently he has a lot more time on his hand than I thought. He blames me for him not having enough gas in his car or anything else. Yet, money is given to him all the time from people. I didn't know my husband when we got married. I dated him for 8 years on and off before that. I thought he changed. He tells you what you want to hear and its hard to just not hate him anymore. I know he is not going to change and I don't want to waste my life waiting for him to do the impossible. Its just not in him. He keeps blaming his parent's marriage and how they divorced. He blames his abusive childhood for how he parents his kids. He blames his job for his lack of money. He blames everyone but himself.