Marriage lasts if you don't live together beforehand

[Due9]

Do you believe this traditional point of view?

ISome research says living together before marriage is not a good idea. While others say that "you get to know the person better" if you live with them and want to know what they are "getting into". What do you believe?

[AshleyM811]

 I didn't live with him beforehand...Man I wish I wouldve though...He managed to keep quite a few of his habits hidden.

[OHgirlinCA]

No, I don't believe this.  If I had lived with my first husband before marrying him, I never would have married him.  It was a miserable marriage. 

I lived with my second husband before we got married, and our marriage is very happy and healthy.

[thecoffeefairy]

I think each couple is unique and needs to make their own decision based in their morals and religious beliefs.

[Due9]

I agree

Quoting thecoffeefairy:

I think each couple is unique and needs to make their own decision based in their morals and religious beliefs.

[JadsW]

I've lived with DH for 15 years. We've been married 13. No, I don't believe it at all. LOL I think (personally) you should know what you're getting into. Plus, there's always this adjustment period where you bicker a lot and, if you didn't know this about moving in with someone, you might think that it was marriage that was "changing" your relationship & not just cohabitation. I hope that made sense. lol

[MamaRuck522]

I don't personally agree with this statement or "research" I have found that it was easier for my husband and I to get to know each other's quirks before marrying each other by living together. Even beyond knowing each other as friends for the eight years that we did before becoming a couple. Plus, we conceived and had our daughter before we were married. My mother was in a VERY abusive marriage with my birth father. Had she lived with him before marrying him, I do not believe that she would have had to endure all of the torture that she did. As so many others in her similar situation still experience today.

[HookedDreamer]

This :)

Quoting thecoffeefairy:

I think each couple is unique and needs to make their own decision based in their morals and religious beliefs.

[nicole2884]

we lived together before hand , an i cant imagine not, i highly suggest everyone live together before hand. if anything i believe its the other way around

[98765]

If i had not been married I would have left my husband in the first year bc it was so hard an such an adjustment. But now 10 years and 2 kids later I am so glad I stayed.

Very glad we did not live together first. Marriage takes work and commitment and without "that piece of paper" (and my promise to God my husband and my family) its too easy to walk away and give up.

[iheartmiboys]

We only lived together 30 days before we got married. Everyone is different.