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[Girlygirlpa]

i've been married almost 8 months dh is 42 i'm 35. we've been together 2.5 years. until a year ago we would only see each other on weekends due to living 1.5 hours apart. hes a great father,husband and great provider. however seems like since we've been married our sexlife well there isn't much of one. he says its cuz i don't like quickies.. and he has to get up early for work.. i just feel so early in our marriage we are drifting apart. I love him so much.. what can i do to spice things up or at least have him give me some attention.. feeling alone!

[MixedCooke]

take advantage of the morning wood!

[2lilmamas]

Quoting MixedCooke:

take advantage of the morning wood!

Lol
Try to spontanious. Yes maybe make live before he goes to work. But also talk to nim quickies are cool but sometimes you want enjoy the moment too.

[nicole2884]

we were in a some what similar situation,when we got married

he was  working a physically demanding job an i have a higher sex drive, we had many talks 

but finally agreed we would dtd at least twice a week, an i have found that when i stopped asking for it i got more 

[Girlygirlpa]

Yea that is our prob too. I have a high sex drive. We have talked about it. But just seems like hes tired at night. Amd i'm not morning person. But if thats what i have to do is start waking up at 5 i will. I just worry its me cuz i have gained a bout 20 lbs. Ive even read other posts from here thought maybe about when we go to bed make it all about him. Just please him then maybe the next night he will want to return the favor lol. I just dont know. Tired of making efforts and being told no I'm tired. Yet then wake up to bed shaking cuz he's "taking care of business" thats why i wonder if its me.

[MomToovey]

 Agreed

Quoting 2lilmamas:

Quoting MixedCooke:

take advantage of the morning wood!

Lol
Try to spontanious. Yes maybe make live before he goes to work. But also talk to nim quickies are cool but sometimes you want enjoy the moment too.

 

[AlannaMaria]

Just give in some mornings. Wake him up before work and give him oral or have sex with h. You have to put in the effort to and surprise him. Send him flirty texts through out the day and tell him you cant wait until he gets home to get it on. Get some toys, cock rings, lubes, lingerie.. There's so much you could do. Be creative and give in more!!

[rayroe2]

 I don't know what kind of problems you have or if there are any. If you guys are newly living together it might be that he just feels like your around to much and he is just getting used to it? It's not the marriage part. Just try talking to him and asking him how things are going and how he feels about living together now. Communication is key to everything.

[JTnJT]

Quoting MixedCooke:

take advantage of the morning wood!

EXACTLY!!  We all know as mothers how all important sleep is...but personally would rather 20 minutes of the hubby's attention than the extra 20 minutes sleep.

[Girlygirlpa]

Exactly. I alway say on athe scale sleep vswe sex... sex always wins. With kids its hard even though youngest is 10 still making sure they are in bed and asleep is another story.

[xxMocahFrappxx]

Instead of asking us, you really need to have a heart to heart with him. Maybe come to a compromise?