My cell phone has been shut off for over a week because someone couldn't be bothered to pay our phone bill. He of course got on his mommy's cell phone plan. He said for 2 weeks he was going to send me money for a new phone,our storage payment,and to do something special with the kids. Last Wednesday he told me to let him know how much money I needed on Thursday and he'd Western Union it on Friday. He calls on Friday and says that he isn't sending me any money. I kind of expected it but it still pissed me off.
We talked on Saturday and had an ok conversation. I had brought up something he said when he was deployed last when his mom and I had an argument he had said "don't make me choose between you and my famiy" I told him that should have been a red flag right there. He didn't understand why. Maybe I'm the only one that thinks this way but when someone that I know is married and has kids talks about family I immediately think of their spouse and children first,parents and siblings second. Is that not what a normal person thinks? So I told him that I know now that he would have chosen them. He got mad and said that he didn't choose anybody. I said "if your mom wouldn't have given you that money to leave you'd still be here" and he said "fuck yeah I would be" So does it sound to any of you like he chose between us??
He called yesterday and asked when the boys' school year was over (school just started 2 weeks ago!) I told him end of May,and asked why. He said that he's trying to figure out when he can get the kids and take them down to Florida for awhile. I told him that was a long ways away and I don't want to talk about it right now. He asked what other breaks through the school year there was and I told him Christmas and Spring Break but I highly doubt I'll let him have the kids on Christmas,he said he already figured that. He then said that since I have the kids throughout the school year (because he left us!!!!) he thinks it's more then fair that he gets them for the majority of the summer. I told him that was far away and a lot could change and I don't want to talk about it right now or make a plan this early let's just wait and see what happens.
He has NO clue I'm gonna file,I'm just gonna spring the papers on him and I had to physically bite my tongue to keep from saying "we'll see what my lawyer thinks is fair"