My DH and I have decided that when our girls are born, we don't want any pictures posted on FB or any other social networking website.. I have made it clear to MY family and they understand just fine.. He just 'broke the news' to his mom and she's having a freaking bird about it saying "well why not? I should be able to do what I want..afterall, they are my granddaughters..blah blah blah." He didn't come off as an a-hole, he just said "look mom, this is what we've decided and would appreciate it if you could understand..we want to be more traditional and send out birth announcements instead of blasting it all over the internet."
I think that's pretty fair if you ask me. They're OUR kids and this is what WE want as PARENTS..
I'm so frustrated and fed up with her antics and how everything has to be about her and now is saying that she won't be here when our girls are born because she doesn't feel that it's right... Ugh.. What did I get myself into
Anyone else have issues similar with their MIL ?? Or a MIL who just won't back off ??
09-16-2012
Welp, it's official. My MIL is out to make both DH and my life miserable. While DH was having a snooze earlier, she called..so of course, not wanting to wake him, I answered..
Now, before I go into any details, here's a question: when someone calls your house, how do they react when you answer the phone? Do they start with a "Hi. Hello. How are you?" or are they rude and demand to put "so & so" on the phone??
The 5 seconds I was on the phone with her went exactly like this:
Me: Hello?
MIL: Yeah..hi..is uh..MY son there..?
Sorry. That shit doesn't fly with me. Just because we had a spat, does NOT give her the right to call MY house and pretend like she doesn't know who in God's name I am :@
I. Am. Furious. Plain and simple.
Told DH, after I had to wake the poor guy up, he was just as mad.
Ok. The whole reason I started ranting..again.. wasn't just because of the way she talked to me, but because of what she said to DH. All because she STILL can't get her head out of her ass, she decided to take it out on him and tell him that she will not be present for the birth of our twins in 2 weeks because she "does not want to deal with my family." Uh.. What the hell ? Needless to say, stress and drama seem to follow me no matter where I go. Still unsure what to do..or if I should even bother with Elvira from here on out
Ugh. I'm pissed off for you. Didn't that just irk you ? I wouldn't know what to say/do in that situation. All I would probably know how to do is cry. haha. Sometimes, they need to learn their place in the relationship.
I'm sorry she was so dumb, glad your daughter is healthy though ! :)
Quoting LeeAnnMcKinney:
Oh yes I remember when I had our daughter my mother in law tried to hold her before me since they took her to be checked out before I could hold her bc my multi marker test said she might have had downs which she doesn't but she through a fit bc we had told the nurse no one was to lay a hand on her but me And my husband she also had a fit bc I wouldn't let her in the delievery room with me
I used to like mine..used to.. Then she turned crazy :) Haha. I would have to say you are extremely lucky! Hope things stay the way they are for you. Having issues with mil's can make your life a living hell, that's for sure.
Quoting justpeachy71904:
Sorry no. I love my future mil. I am lucky I guess. But bump :(
Oh you poor thing! ..She sounds a tad on the crazy side - kind of like mine atm.. Yes, she's the grandparent but that does NOT give her the right to act like a psycho and call you a bad mother. Who cares if she thought she was too young. My mom is 43 and my mil is 47. Some people really have guts. I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I hope things are at least a bit better between the two of you :)
Quoting MrsImperfect:
Me and my mil were in a 3 yr brawl so when I gave birth (she wasnt told cause of how she treated us and we cut her out of our life until she could act decent to us) she went around asking everyone where we were (even tho we were in the closet hospital around to where we lived) so she could "storm in and demand to see her granddaughter cause shes a grandparent and has rights! ". We actually had to tell the nurses to tell us when someone asked to see us cause we had a feeling she would. But the entire pregnancy she called me a horrible mom and she didnt want me to be the mother of her grand kids and she didnt want to be a grandparent cause she was too young and also didnt want to even be called grandma.
Quoting absearcy:Oh you poor thing! ..She sounds a tad on the crazy side - kind of like mine atm.. Yes, she's the grandparent but that does NOT give her the right to act like a psycho and call you a bad mother. Who cares if she thought she was too young. My mom is 43 and my mil is 47. Some people really have guts. I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I hope things are at least a bit better between the two of you :)
Quoting MrsImperfect:
Me and my mil were in a 3 yr brawl so when I gave birth (she wasnt told cause of how she treated us and we cut her out of our life until she could act decent to us) she went around asking everyone where we were (even tho we were in the closet hospital around to where we lived) so she could "storm in and demand to see her granddaughter cause shes a grandparent and has rights! ". We actually had to tell the nurses to tell us when someone asked to see us cause we had a feeling she would. But the entire pregnancy she called me a horrible mom and she didnt want me to be the mother of her grand kids and she didnt want to be a grandparent cause she was too young and also didnt want to even be called grandma.
Dh and my argument today made me so mad, and realized he is lazy
Would you be mad about this? *poll*
- absearcy
on Sep. 9, 2012 at 7:29 PM