Ok me and hubby are constantly having this debate and we (both he and I) thought we would get some more opinions.
We have been married for almost 4 yrs and I work in healthcare. I DO NOT wear my wedding rings most days. I find them uncomfortable during work because on more than one occasion i have had someone squeeze my hand and bruise my fingers because my ring had turned sideways. I DO NOT wear them on normal days if i go to school or anything. If we go out i will occasionally put them on but most times they stay in the box. He finds this offensive. not because he thinks im cheating but because were married and im "supposed to" my dad hardly ever wore his ring- never actually, and so i dont think of it as such a big deal.
Thoughts?
For me, it's not that big of a deal. It's not the ring that makes the marriage. My husband and I both have jobs that can make wearing rings difficult at times, so we don't always wear ours. I do prefer to wear mine and I love seeing my husband's hand though, but I don't get upset when one or both of us forget to put them on after work or anything like that.
Dh doesn't wear his because it's a safety hazard when he's working. Why don't you look into an alternative ring to wear? Maybe a small, thin band or one of the mesh styles that would adapt when your hand is squeezed and would work under gloves. Have dh help you pick something out.
My husband and I ALWAYS wear our rings. When he had to have surgery, they were trying to make him take them off, he fought it hard enough that they let him keep it on. He's never taken his off. Mine has come off for cleaning and inspections, but that's it. We sleep, shower, and live in them.
long term care. I work in a nursing home
Quoting ajrjj05:
I work in homehealth care and I ALWAYS! wear my rings. Yes I have be squeezed and pinched with my ring. i just make sure the ring is pointing up though the day alot. but in healthcare you shouldn't wear them for germs getting trapped really. What do you do exactly? I am a CNA-traveling.
I am in healthcare as well, and more often then not, I will turn my ring upside-down so that it does not go to the side.
Perhaps you could just buy a cheap band plain and simple, nothing sticking out of it, to ease his mind?
The only time I've taken mine off is when I was in the hospital. My husband has never taken his off. Ours are both just bands.
maybe at work, i kinda understand (not really) but i think not wearing them on normal days and stuff is just disrespectful to your husband. why did you even let him buy you a ring if you arent going to show that "symbol" to all who can see?
Our rings will be done as scarification pieces as part of a ritual so we'll always have them on. However, it's not a big deal to us. He is a chef, so I can understand him not wanting to wear his ring constantly. I'm in accounting and my hands swell a lot because of my lupus so I might not be able to wear them one day and then can the next.
Our rings we'll end up wearing on a chain around our necks.
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Its always gotta be about him. kinda long
- jcampbell288
on Sep. 12, 2012 at 10:26 AM