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I can't fight to keep you anymore...so I'll let go

Posted by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 10:35 AM
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This is a letter to my husband of almost 4 years:
Hello, love-
We've had rough patches before but never this bad. I have fought hard to stay strong and weather any storms that come at us while you simply sat and watched me struggle to hold everything together. All your hateful comments cut me deeply, though I refused to believe it was really you saying them, I said it was the stress and depression so I let them roll off my back. When you said I could lose a few pounds, I lost 30 and am still going. When you said the house wasn't clean enough, I became anal about you leaving things out and not putting them away. When you were about to go to jail, I gave you my last 500 to keep you free. When I met your mother and realized you were the result of a childhood filled with neglect, I became determined not to give up on you no matter how hard you pushed. When I caught you lying, I forgave and told you to be a better man than your father was. And when your dad was terminally ill, I convinced you to make peace with him and let the pain go. When you refused to ever get up with your son in the morning, I just did it myself. When you spent hours playing video games instead of playing with your child, I made up the games for him to play with me. When you got fired from your job and became so depressed you wanted to leave, I showed you how selfish that was because your son and your wife love you even when you fail. I went back to work when you asked me to, let you stay home when you got fired again and again. I spent holidays with your psychotic family even though I wanted to see mine. I learned to sleep without you since you preferred to sleep with the dog on our couch. I had to come to terms with you looking at porn all the time and realize it was nothing to do with me. I let you do things to me sexually I hate to make you happy when I can't even get you to rub my feet. I felt a certain level of tolerance was needed to make this work, however when all the giving and taking become one sided, it's not marriage, it's servitude. I see how you check your phone constantly and act shady when you're on it if I'm in the room. You've become secretive and act like I'm crazy for asking about it. I have put up with too much too long. You tell me all the time YOU are tired of MY shit? There's nothing more I can do. So I'm letting you go. If you want me you have to earn my love again. I am worth more than the scraps you give to me in attention and affection. I am intelligent, but my compassion for you was my downfall and you ripped my self worth down to nothing. Well guess what? Kick rocks if I'm not worth it. I will find another man who can and will treat me with respect and dignity. You can look at skanks and hoes on your phone all you want but you'll never touch me again. I love you, but I love me too. Though I'll never let you see, the scars you left will take forever to heal.
Goodbye, my love,
Mimi

Sorry it was so long guys. I had to get that out. Dh and I got into another fight last night and he threatened to leave me for the last time. If he wants to work it out great but if he wants to leave I will not stop him this time. I will never let him see me cry again.
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chipperer1ca
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 10:39 AM
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Writing is such a freeing thing. Im proud of you for letting go. Whether he decides to stay of not please promise that you will hold on to the power you have in your hands right now.

Hugs and good luck!
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tattooedmama126
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 10:43 AM
I'm always gonna love him, but I can't let this keep me from ever being happy again.
laylolilah
by Member on Sep. 17, 2012 at 10:46 AM
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This could be from me.
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scoleman828
by Bronze Member on Sep. 17, 2012 at 11:05 AM
I was gonna say the same thing. OP, can I steal this? Kinda funny, but sad, side more. I was reading this while listening to Taylor swift's "we are never ever getting back together." Seems fitting...

Quoting laylolilah:

This could be from me.
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tattooedmama126
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 11:10 AM
Quoting scoleman828:



You may steal it if you wish.
2lilmamas
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 11:17 AM
You should feel proud of yourself. Making the decision to get away from the bs. I know its tough but the fact that you know you have to Love yourself first is very important. If he loves you then he will do any last thing to get you back. You deserve someone who will Love you and cherish you. Hugs sweetie and stay strong..
scoleman828
by Bronze Member on Sep. 17, 2012 at 11:18 AM
I just hope I can be strong enough to actually follow through with letting go.... :-(

Quoting tattooedmama126:

Quoting scoleman828:




You may steal it if you wish.
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newstepmom61811
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 11:26 AM
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Brilliant goodbye letter, If that's how he treats you, VERY beautifully said and you DO deserve better... good luck finding it...I would add, He was lucky to ever have you the first time, to win you back should be a miracle, make him truly change and EARN it...

justpeachy71904
by Silver Member on Sep. 17, 2012 at 11:29 AM
Wow. I am so sorry you have had to endure all of that. I hope you give him that and walk away..you and you kid(s) deserve better good luck and good riddance.
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tattooedmama126
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 11:37 AM
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Thank you everybody for your kind words. They mean more than you'll ever know.
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