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Should I send him to jail? ***UPDATE HES GONE***

Posted by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 7:00 PM
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What's up ladies,
My marriage is unfortunatey in the end stages( unless there's a huge miracle) and dh is making my life hell. The past two weekends he left me and ds home while he went and got high. I was pissed! Well then he brought home his friend a few days ago who just broke up with his gf and I can't stand him. And this friend just loves talking about girls they used to bang. I hate hearing about past encounters and I'm mature enough not to hold anything against him because its the past but I really don't like having the image shoved in my head of him inside someone else kwim? Dh is on probation for an old charge. But its been extended because he failed his ua for pot earlier this year. Well I reamed him and decided to work it out for our ds. But he got laid off recently and has been really depressed. He's been spending almost all his free time on the net on his phone. I'm pretty sure he's doing something shady because he checks it all the time and has a lock on it. Since his friend came over all they've talked about is getting high and hoes. And he goes out of his way to be hurtful to me. He sleeps all he wants and never gets up with ds or take him to or from school. He never helps with the house work or much of anything.
I'm beyond fed up as you can imagine. I know many would have left long ago. However I got let go from my job in july and I've been trying to hold out til I find a job. I start an awesome job the first of october. Last night while they were playing video games( which is all they've been doing for 2 days now) dh said he was going to take ds and go live with his cousin in ny. That's something else, he's always said he was getting ds if we split. But he doesn't take care of him or have the patience needed to deal with a 2.5 year old. I have to walk ds to daycare every morning to save the gas so I can drive to pick him up in the afternoons. Now I'm scared he's going to take off with ds one day while I'm at work. He goes back to court soon because he got violated again and he might go to jail. But with the way things are going he's just not trying to get better. And now he's being an ass and not helping ds at all. I'm worried. Should I call his po and ask her to intervene? She might give him a ua and he would probably go to jail. I hate that but I hate him being around ds. Help!

**Update ladies!**
Well I caught him texting another girl calling her babe and honey and that he wishes he could lay with her and be with her. I confronted him and he didn't even deny it he turned it around on me for spying. I took his phone and he put his hands on me enough to leave some marks. I let him give the baby a bath and went out and called his po. Then I took the baby for a walk and while I was gone the cops came to serve a warrant for his arrest. They told me he took off and ran out the house and they lost him. About an hour later he showed up banging on the door and demanding I let him in so he could get some stuff and I called 911 while I was talking to him through the door. Then I let him in to keep him there and the cops came in the back door. He tried slamming the door on the cop and he tasered him but he tok the leads out and tried to get out the front door and hit the cop with the door again and ran outside into the woods across the street. That was about 400.
Its 1030 at night and they still ain't found him. His mom told me if he comes back to let him in to clean up and not call the law! Ha after her son put his hands on me? Right that's gonna happen! He's desparate and dellusional. I'm not letting him in ever again. He's looking at some major charges with battery on a leo. I'm still in shock but I can feel the hurt creeping in from knowing he was calling someone else the pet names he called me. It hurts like hell but I'm free!
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 7:00 PM
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meganisamom
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 7:04 PM
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Ummmm where do I even start? Getting high and bringing home random losers? That right there is your answer. Being involved with a felon is never a good idea, letting him in the home while he is high? You need to wake up and get rid of him. Eewwww. Call his PArol officer. And have him locked up. No judge is going to give a con custody. I'm sorry. Your whole situation sounds awful. Good luck.
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Mommytorn
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 7:52 PM
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"no judge is going to give a con custody" --yeah that's not true
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tattooedmama126
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 8:09 PM
Quoting Mommytorn:

"no judge is going to give a con custody" --yeah that's not true


What do you mean?
kimsamomof3
by Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 8:12 PM
So how are eating and living if neither of you have jobs? Just wondering!! I would drop the loser.
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tattooedmama126
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 8:22 PM
Quoting kimsamomof3:

So how are eating and living if neither of you have jobs? Just wondering!! I would drop the loser.


We have been having to borrow from family. Yeah I hate that. Plus I just got word that my unemployment should be coming through soon. We have food stamps and I can't wait to be off them. Plus we get assistance when we can for some bills. He just got laid off a few weeks ago so now its getting bad. I'm afraid when I get my unemployment he's going to try to blow it. If I draw a tight rein with the money he throws huge tantrums.
Gmgej
by Michele on Sep. 21, 2012 at 9:19 PM
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If my dh EVER threatened to take any of my children, or was smoking pot and NOT working yes as far as I am concerend he could sit his ass in jail. I would not only call his PO I would file while he was in ans let the judge know he is threatening to take your child and you are afraid. 


MrsImperfect
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 9:21 PM
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Fight custody. With his record they will piss test. He fails no custody.
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EmilysMom2010
by Bronze Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 9:25 PM
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Just call the cops and tell them your bf who is on probation just smoked pot and you want him out of your house and he won't leave. They will take care of the rest. And that will give you time to change the locks and get a restraining order.
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meganisamom
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 9:33 PM
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No judge is going to give a drug using con with no job custody of a baby over the mother.


Quoting Mommytorn:

"no judge is going to give a con custody" --yeah that's not true

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tattooedmama126
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:15 PM
I'm calling his po Monday morning. She's supposed to stop by the house anyway so I'm gonna see if she will pop in one day and just act like its her idea. If she says I called he and his family will try to make my life hell.
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