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Should I send him to jail? ***UPDATE HES GONE***

What's up ladies,
My marriage is unfortunatey in the end stages( unless there's a huge miracle) and dh is making my life hell. The past two weekends he left me and ds home while he went and got high. I was pissed! Well then he brought home his friend a few days ago who just broke up with his gf and I can't stand him. And this friend just loves talking about girls they used to bang. I hate hearing about past encounters and I'm mature enough not to hold anything against him because its the past but I really don't like having the image shoved in my head of him inside someone else kwim? Dh is on probation for an old charge. But its been extended because he failed his ua for pot earlier this year. Well I reamed him and decided to work it out for our ds. But he got laid off recently and has been really depressed. He's been spending almost all his free time on the net on his phone. I'm pretty sure he's doing something shady because he checks it all the time and has a lock on it. Since his friend came over all they've talked about is getting high and hoes. And he goes out of his way to be hurtful to me. He sleeps all he wants and never gets up with ds or take him to or from school. He never helps with the house work or much of anything.
I'm beyond fed up as you can imagine. I know many would have left long ago. However I got let go from my job in july and I've been trying to hold out til I find a job. I start an awesome job the first of october. Last night while they were playing video games( which is all they've been doing for 2 days now) dh said he was going to take ds and go live with his cousin in ny. That's something else, he's always said he was getting ds if we split. But he doesn't take care of him or have the patience needed to deal with a 2.5 year old. I have to walk ds to daycare every morning to save the gas so I can drive to pick him up in the afternoons. Now I'm scared he's going to take off with ds one day while I'm at work. He goes back to court soon because he got violated again and he might go to jail. But with the way things are going he's just not trying to get better. And now he's being an ass and not helping ds at all. I'm worried. Should I call his po and ask her to intervene? She might give him a ua and he would probably go to jail. I hate that but I hate him being around ds. Help!

**Update ladies!**
Well I caught him texting another girl calling her babe and honey and that he wishes he could lay with her and be with her. I confronted him and he didn't even deny it he turned it around on me for spying. I took his phone and he put his hands on me enough to leave some marks. I let him give the baby a bath and went out and called his po. Then I took the baby for a walk and while I was gone the cops came to serve a warrant for his arrest. They told me he took off and ran out the house and they lost him. About an hour later he showed up banging on the door and demanding I let him in so he could get some stuff and I called 911 while I was talking to him through the door. Then I let him in to keep him there and the cops came in the back door. He tried slamming the door on the cop and he tasered him but he tok the leads out and tried to get out the front door and hit the cop with the door again and ran outside into the woods across the street. That was about 400.
Its 1030 at night and they still ain't found him. His mom told me if he comes back to let him in to clean up and not call the law! Ha after her son put his hands on me? Right that's gonna happen! He's desparate and dellusional. I'm not letting him in ever again. He's looking at some major charges with battery on a leo. I'm still in shock but I can feel the hurt creeping in from knowing he was calling someone else the pet names he called me. It hurts like hell but I'm free!
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 7:00 PM
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court_1989
by on Sep. 22, 2012 at 1:23 PM
Quoting Mommytorn:

"no judge is going to give a con custody" --yeah that's not true

. Ya. My ex has visitation with ds5 he a felon for child porn
mummy1990
by on Sep. 22, 2012 at 9:25 PM
Call his po. Don't take threats like that lightly. But tell his po you don't want him knowing it was you. Your child is first priority. Don't wait until it's too late.
Kristen.Reavis
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 4:45 AM

Honey all i can say is GOOD RIDANCE and im sorry you and your son had to go through this *hugs*

veganistic
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 5:58 AM
He would probably get visitation though, hopefully op can push for supervised.

Quoting meganisamom:

No judge is going to give a drug using con with no job custody of a baby over the mother.




Quoting Mommytorn:

"no judge is going to give a con custody" --yeah that's not true

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veganistic
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 6:00 AM
Ugh, not overnight I hope? I thought if they were perverts that was the only crime that would bar them visitation. :(

Quoting court_1989:

Quoting Mommytorn:

"no judge is going to give a con custody" --yeah that's not true

. Ya. My ex has visitation with ds5 he a felon for child porn
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justpeachy71904
by Silver Member on Sep. 23, 2012 at 8:12 AM
Was he on drugs? He took the leads out of the taser gun? Wow he had to have open wounds and to withstand the shock. How big is he. I work with law enforcement and it buckles the knees of the biggest guys I've ever seen. My word.
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katemarie97
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 8:20 AM
Hold on..after he put his hands on you, you let him bath yalls son? No effing way..sorry but that to me is insane.
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diamondsetter
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 8:25 AM
You definitely did the right thing!
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Gmgej
by Michele on Sep. 23, 2012 at 8:44 AM

Oh sweetie the hurt will pass, this is not a person to cry over.

court_1989
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 10:30 AM
Quoting veganistic:


he gets overnights and Half of summer.
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