My husband and I have been Together for 8 years, married for 7 years. We have known eachother for 14 years. We are junior high/high school sweet hearts. We got married young He joined the miliary we had our first baby then a second and a third a few years ago. We had a fall out and separated for a few months in 2008 since then its been a battle. We have been off and on since then and we do not live together. While we were off and on He was with other people Im not even sure how many. (I have not been with anyone but him) Recently this year he had an emotional affair that lasted about 5 months. Since we have been separated off and on my husband came clean to me that he has been struggling with drug addiction for several years. ( I had no idea) but looking back now I can see that he was. All the fights and mood swings. He is now getting help with that and is trying to get his life together for himself, our three kids and me. We are back together and are trying to work on our marriage and family. The reason I am posting here is to get some information, some advice or opinions and or maybe someone else has been where I am today or going thru it now. I am having a very hard time getting past all the infidelity and the affair. even though I have known about him being with other people for several years now but the emotional affair was this year. I dont know if its the several one night stands that upset or the affair or maybe all of it. I have struggled with my thoughts, feelings, hurt and pain for a few years now. We usually just sweep it under the rug and move forward but I dont want to do that anymore I need to get past this and let go I just dont know how. Certain things will remind me or things will come up. I have all these thoughts and questions. I dont know how to get past it and stop having all these thoughts. How do I get past the infidelity and move forward? Any advice/support would be great!