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around for me but not for baby?? help!

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Sooo... ive always had feelings for this guys.. we've been "talking" for 5 yrs but we were never nothing official, now I'm 5mo prego w his baby. we still talk n try to stay friends -like what we were before i got pregnant, but he doesn't want anything to do with the kid. He already has kids n says he would love to be around for My lil one but he genuinely can't. hes super confused n drags me along w him plus he's always busy n doesn't really make time for me. should i even bother staying friends w the guy? It wasn't planned so i don't hold anything against him plus I still have feelings for him n it'd be nice to have that someone around even as friends or whatever ... :/ help
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by on Sep. 26, 2012 at 1:49 AM
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by Casey on Oct. 5, 2012 at 1:07 AM
*Bangs head against desk*

So, you're 22 and you know everything. Please come back and update us in about 9 months about how this is the "best thing that had ever happened to you".

How many kids is this guy currently paying child support for? Would it even make sense to go after him for support? He says he can't be friends with you anymore because you are pregnant with his kid??? Will he just up and disappear on you?

Be smart! Please! Seriously, it kills me to see so many young girls end up like this.

Quoting PollyPocket7:

for the peeps saying u feel bad for this child.. I'm 22 years old, I have health ins which i pay for, I have a good job n i have already bought almost everything for my baby -crib dresser stroller car seat clothes dipers.. you name it! and was also brought up with good morals n knowing that i have to take care of my responsibilities so when he said i should get an abortion i told him to go to hell never wanted to see him again! We didn't talk for a couple months but then he came back around with the 'I wish i could be there, I wish it wasnt mine so me n u could still be friends' bs.

I know I'm gonna be a great mom n id go to the end of the world to make sure of it but i understand that my baby needs a male figure around -specially b/c I'm having boy n a good man would realize that n stick around financially, emotionally or something!

U guys made realize a different point of view which I really appreciate. Ill def take your advices n opinions into consideration b/c yes, my number one priority is my baby.

Thanks everyone, I truly appreciate all of this :-)
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