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Would this bother you or am i overreacting?

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Bf of 2 years almost always comes to bed and cuddles immediately. He has had cold so didn't want to. For the past week even since he felt better he won't cuddle. Will lay with his.back to me and won't touch. Granted we had awesome sex Sunday night but I'm wondering what I did wrong for him not touch me? I said to him this morning "what you don't like laying near me in bed anymore?" He says "what! You have an issue with that because I want to lay this way! you're ridiculous!" What do I do?

by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 7:55 AM
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Ladybug1260
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 10:39 AM

Can I ask YOU something about what you wrote?  What do you mean....you never question your relationship?

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

No, no it wouldn't. But I'm not insecure in the least. I don't ever question my relationship, and I'm not afraid my husband is cheating or would cheat. It just sounds like you are super insecure and needy. 

Quoting Ladybug1260:

So you mean to tell me that if your bf/husband cuddled EVERY night ALL night and all of a sudden for at least a week he wants to only rub bare asses together (not being funny or insulting) that that wouldnt raise a red flag to you? 

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

I read your other posts. You did accuse him of cheating because of a missing condom, correct? And he said no and to leave him alone about it, correct? And you confronted a girl, a friend of both of yours, and pissed her off and now she doesn't want to talk to either of you anymore, correct? 

THAT is the batshit crazy I am talking about, coupled with this. It's not just one question, it's a pattern. And I don't see not wanting to cuddle at night as being treated like shit and being walked over, maybe he just decided he likes sleeping on the other side of the bed. Give the guy a break, sheesh. 

Quoting Ladybug1260:

Hmmmm  where did I accuse him of anything?  Please show me where?  Because I asked him a simple frigging question that is pushing him away?  Shall we all just be treated like shit and allow men to walk all over us?  Is that how YOUR relationship works?

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

Are you the one who swears he's cheating because of the missing condom? And you confronted some chick and now she doesn't want to talk to you? 

You are probably pushing him away with your batshit crazy accusations. 






raegan1221
by Silver Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 10:40 AM

 Well my boyfriend and I are having problems right now and the problem is that I don't initiate enough....

Ladybug1260
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 10:44 AM

How you going to fix it?

Quoting raegan1221:

 Well my boyfriend and I are having problems right now and the problem is that I don't initiate enough....


raegan1221
by Silver Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 10:45 AM

 Initiate! Lol. I am trying to talk to him..he's asleep right now. We don't live together or anything. And he's going through a lot right now anyways. I am going to try and talk to him...and just change it by my actions.

Quoting Ladybug1260:

How you going to fix it?

Quoting raegan1221:

 Well my boyfriend and I are having problems right now and the problem is that I don't initiate enough....

 

 

Faith, Hope & Love "I Will Have Faith in YOU, Hope For YOU To Come Home To Me & Love YOU More Every Day".
Ladybug1260
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 10:49 AM

Initiate what?  The sex or touching or everything? 

Quoting raegan1221:

 Initiate! Lol. I am trying to talk to him..he's asleep right now. We don't live together or anything. And he's going through a lot right now anyways. I am going to try and talk to him...and just change it by my actions.

Quoting Ladybug1260:

How you going to fix it?

Quoting raegan1221:

 Well my boyfriend and I are having problems right now and the problem is that I don't initiate enough....


 


98765
by Silver Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 10:52 AM
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It seems to me that you asked if you are overreacting abd anyone who has said yes you are you are getting upset with.

So i will tell you what you want to hear--no you are not overreacting. You must do something immediately! Force him to talk, roll him over and make him face you, grab him and hold him and dont let go!

There is a major issue here that needs addressing right away or your relationship is doomed!

There. Do you feel justfied now?
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Megan11587
by Megan on Oct. 5, 2012 at 10:52 AM
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Why are you getting pissed off at people for their answers?  Your question specifically says "Would this bother YOU or am I overreacting".  We aren't mind readers - we don't know your husband.  These ladies are answering your question.  Don't ask if you don't want to be answered.  Do you just want us to say he's a cheating scumbag? 

BUFFIE.the.BODY
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 10:54 AM
My DF does it all the time
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raegan1221
by Silver Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:00 AM

 Everything.  I just don't initiate enough. I am scared of rejection but I don't know why I am scared of it with him.

Quoting Ladybug1260:

Initiate what?  The sex or touching or everything? 

Quoting raegan1221:

 Initiate! Lol. I am trying to talk to him..he's asleep right now. We don't live together or anything. And he's going through a lot right now anyways. I am going to try and talk to him...and just change it by my actions.

Quoting Ladybug1260:

How you going to fix it?

Quoting raegan1221:

 Well my boyfriend and I are having problems right now and the problem is that I don't initiate enough....

 

 

 

 

Faith, Hope & Love "I Will Have Faith in YOU, Hope For YOU To Come Home To Me & Love YOU More Every Day".
Ladybug1260
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:01 AM

I haven't got upset with anyone.  Because I ask a question back at someone that is upset?  Wow.....stop reading into things. 

Quoting 98765:

It seems to me that you asked if you are overreacting abd anyone who has said yes you are you are getting upset with.

So i will tell you what you want to hear--no you are not overreacting. You must do something immediately! Force him to talk, roll him over and make him face you, grab him and hold him and dont let go!

There is a major issue here that needs addressing right away or your relationship is doomed!

There. Do you feel justfied now?


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