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Ladies, I really enjoy CM (most of the time) I can identify a lot of times, I'm divorced, remarried. I have exhusband issues, ex wife issues and a big blended family. I am no where near perfect. And I never pretend I am. But, day after day I read about women who post stories about men who cheat, abuse, humiliate and are all around shitty husbands/boyfriends/fathers. These girls I feel awful for. But what I'd like to know is..... Why do most of these girls have no self respect? Why do women think its ok to get involved with men who have numerous children with numerous women? DO they REALLY THINK THEY ARE GIING TO CHANGE? And why do they girls continue to have babies when no one is working? Or they have no place to live? Stop having children you can't afford. Stop being with men that treat you like shit. Try getting married to a decent man who loves you BEFORE you have 5 kids. Finish school, stand on your own feet and HAVE SOME FREAKIN SELF RESPECT. Or we will have daughters and sons who think it is okay to live like this.
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by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:53 AM
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JenniferW67
by Bronze Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 6:33 PM

I totally agree with you. Look at the role models on tv. I mean Snooky and whatever tv show it is that glamorizes teen pregnancy. I also think it happens because people have become too polite to say the right thing. There is no shame. I'm not saying people can't make mistakes, but its acceptable to do the wrong things now with no consequence.

Hectictracy
by Bronze Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 6:36 PM
Exactly!!

Quoting meganisamom:

They never learn. And then they cry "why"?




Quoting Hectictracy:

I get what you're saying. A girl I know was with some guy that had 4 kids with 4 different women, didn't take care of any of those kids. She got pregnant by the guy. She kept saying he would NEVER do that to her. Guess what! She had 2 kids with the guy, he's not around at all. I don't feel sorry for her. She knew what he was like. Now she's living with her mom, no job, no car, no dad for the kids.

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meganisamom
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:58 PM
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I do think people should be married before they have kids. I came from unmarried parents and it always bugged me. And I do think men that have numerous kids with numerous women are irresponsible. The best place to raise a child is in a home with two loving parents.


Quoting braezmommy89:

I guess the way I read it was wrong.



I took it as you think men who have numerous children with numerous women are scum, and that you should marry before having children..




Quoting meganisamom:

Ok. Awesome. So why the ummmm? You're obviously not what this post was referring to.






Quoting braezmommy89:

Ummmm...







My df (dh in 5 days) has 5 other children, 4 from his ex wife, 1 of which isnt biologically his but he has raised him and continues to, and finally my two..







He bustes his ass EVERYDAY to care for ALL of his children and make sure we all had what we needed & wanted.. He has & contiues to provide and protect for us.







He had a brain hemmorage(sp) Oct 16th 2011 & since then has had 4 strokes. His Dr told him last Tuesday, he cant return to work (he is a BPO) for Multiple reasons.. Seizures, Strokes, and headaches as a result from the brain bleed..



Even tho god has thrown this at us, he STILL has provided and protected us, all of his children have what they need and then some!!







I have self respect, and im proud of my soo to be hubby!! He could of said "eff it" to his son whn he divorced his ex because hes not technically his but he didnt, he could have gave up when he had his brain hemmorage last Oct but he didnt..



He loves me & all of our kids & continues to do his very best for all of us..



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braezmommy89
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:01 PM
Ok....so this post does apply to me.... or my df rather.


Quoting meganisamom:

I do think people should be married before they have kids. I came from unmarried parents and it always bugged me. And I do think men that have numerous kids with numerous women are irresponsible. The best place to raise a child is in a home with two loving parents.




Quoting braezmommy89:

I guess the way I read it was wrong.





I took it as you think men who have numerous children with numerous women are scum, and that you should marry before having children..






Quoting meganisamom:

Ok. Awesome. So why the ummmm? You're obviously not what this post was referring to.








Quoting braezmommy89:

Ummmm...









My df (dh in 5 days) has 5 other children, 4 from his ex wife, 1 of which isnt biologically his but he has raised him and continues to, and finally my two..









He bustes his ass EVERYDAY to care for ALL of his children and make sure we all had what we needed & wanted.. He has & contiues to provide and protect for us.









He had a brain hemmorage(sp) Oct 16th 2011 & since then has had 4 strokes. His Dr told him last Tuesday, he cant return to work (he is a BPO) for Multiple reasons.. Seizures, Strokes, and headaches as a result from the brain bleed..




Even tho god has thrown this at us, he STILL has provided and protected us, all of his children have what they need and then some!!









I have self respect, and im proud of my soo to be hubby!! He could of said "eff it" to his son whn he divorced his ex because hes not technically his but he didnt, he could have gave up when he had his brain hemmorage last Oct but he didnt..




He loves me & all of our kids & continues to do his very best for all of us..




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Amybelle
by Bronze Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:03 PM
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Because a POS Man is better than No Man to too many

meganisamom
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:03 PM
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You said he had 4 kids with his ex wife. How is that multiple kids with multiple women? I also said I was talking about abusive, no jobs and bad fathers. Did you read the post? You seem to feel attacked when nothing I said pertained to you. If you're defensive maybe you have a problem with things in your life, but from what you're saying your soon to be hubby seems like a great guy. Congrats on the wedding!

Quoting braezmommy89:

Ok....so this post does apply to me.... or my df rather.



Quoting meganisamom:

I do think people should be married before they have kids. I came from unmarried parents and it always bugged me. And I do think men that have numerous kids with numerous women are irresponsible. The best place to raise a child is in a home with two loving parents.





Quoting braezmommy89:

I guess the way I read it was wrong.







I took it as you think men who have numerous children with numerous women are scum, and that you should marry before having children..







Quoting meganisamom:

Ok. Awesome. So why the ummmm? You're obviously not what this post was referring to.









Quoting braezmommy89:

Ummmm...











My df (dh in 5 days) has 5 other children, 4 from his ex wife, 1 of which isnt biologically his but he has raised him and continues to, and finally my two..











He bustes his ass EVERYDAY to care for ALL of his children and make sure we all had what we needed & wanted.. He has & contiues to provide and protect for us.











He had a brain hemmorage(sp) Oct 16th 2011 & since then has had 4 strokes. His Dr told him last Tuesday, he cant return to work (he is a BPO) for Multiple reasons.. Seizures, Strokes, and headaches as a result from the brain bleed..





Even tho god has thrown this at us, he STILL has provided and protected us, all of his children have what they need and then some!!











I have self respect, and im proud of my soo to be hubby!! He could of said "eff it" to his son whn he divorced his ex because hes not technically his but he didnt, he could have gave up when he had his brain hemmorage last Oct but he didnt..





He loves me & all of our kids & continues to do his very best for all of us..










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braezmommy89
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:09 PM
4 kids from his ex, 1 with a girl who said she couldnt get pregnant, yes he fell for it, smh & 2 from me...

Sorry i thought i put 5 kids, my bad.


I should add, we dont get to see the dd from the girl who lied to him :( its sad & breaks our heart..
Quoting meganisamom:

You said he had 4 kids with his ex wife. How is that multiple kids with multiple women?



Quoting braezmommy89:

Ok....so this post does apply to me.... or my df rather.





Quoting meganisamom:

I do think people should be married before they have kids. I came from unmarried parents and it always bugged me. And I do think men that have numerous kids with numerous women are irresponsible. The best place to raise a child is in a home with two loving parents.







Quoting braezmommy89:

I guess the way I read it was wrong.









I took it as you think men who have numerous children with numerous women are scum, and that you should marry before having children..









Quoting meganisamom:

Ok. Awesome. So why the ummmm? You're obviously not what this post was referring to.











Quoting braezmommy89:

Ummmm...













My df (dh in 5 days) has 5 other children, 4 from his ex wife, 1 of which isnt biologically his but he has raised him and continues to, and finally my two..













He bustes his ass EVERYDAY to care for ALL of his children and make sure we all had what we needed & wanted.. He has & contiues to provide and protect for us.













He had a brain hemmorage(sp) Oct 16th 2011 & since then has had 4 strokes. His Dr told him last Tuesday, he cant return to work (he is a BPO) for Multiple reasons.. Seizures, Strokes, and headaches as a result from the brain bleed..






Even tho god has thrown this at us, he STILL has provided and protected us, all of his children have what they need and then some!!













I have self respect, and im proud of my soo to be hubby!! He could of said "eff it" to his son whn he divorced his ex because hes not technically his but he didnt, he could have gave up when he had his brain hemmorage last Oct but he didnt..






He loves me & all of our kids & continues to do his very best for all of us..












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braezmommy89
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:22 PM
Lol nope I dont have any problems in my life... ok ok i do!! My MIL is a *#$¥%*# witch, who plays favortism, any advice?? Haha

Thank you & he is :) the best :)


Quoting meganisamom:

You said he had 4 kids with his ex wife. How is that multiple kids with multiple women? I also said I was talking about abusive, no jobs and bad fathers. Did you read the post? You seem to feel attacked when nothing I said pertained to you. If you're defensive maybe you have a problem with things in your life, but from what you're saying your soon to be hubby seems like a great guy. Congrats on the wedding!

Quoting braezmommy89:

Ok....so this post does apply to me.... or my df rather.



Quoting meganisamom:

I do think people should be married before they have kids. I came from unmarried parents and it always bugged me. And I do think men that have numerous kids with numerous women are irresponsible. The best place to raise a child is in a home with two loving parents.





Quoting braezmommy89:

I guess the way I read it was wrong.







I took it as you think men who have numerous children with numerous women are scum, and that you should marry before having children..







Quoting meganisamom:

Ok. Awesome. So why the ummmm? You're obviously not what this post was referring to.









Quoting braezmommy89:

Ummmm...











My df (dh in 5 days) has 5 other children, 4 from his ex wife, 1 of which isnt biologically his but he has raised him and continues to, and finally my two..











He bustes his ass EVERYDAY to care for ALL of his children and make sure we all had what we needed & wanted.. He has & contiues to provide and protect for us.











He had a brain hemmorage(sp) Oct 16th 2011 & since then has had 4 strokes. His Dr told him last Tuesday, he cant return to work (he is a BPO) for Multiple reasons.. Seizures, Strokes, and headaches as a result from the brain bleed..





Even tho god has thrown this at us, he STILL has provided and protected us, all of his children have what they need and then some!!











I have self respect, and im proud of my soo to be hubby!! He could of said "eff it" to his son whn he divorced his ex because hes not technically his but he didnt, he could have gave up when he had his brain hemmorage last Oct but he didnt..





He loves me & all of our kids & continues to do his very best for all of us..











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meganisamom
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:25 PM
Lol. My MIL refuses to meet me because she is best friends with the exwife. I'm probably better off. I didn't mean that nasty by the way, it came out wrong. I don't proof read. :).


Quoting braezmommy89:

Lol nope I dont have any problems in my life... ok ok i do!! My MIL is a *#$¥%*# witch, who plays favortism, any advice?? Haha



Thank you & he is :) the best :)




Quoting meganisamom:

You said he had 4 kids with his ex wife. How is that multiple kids with multiple women? I also said I was talking about abusive, no jobs and bad fathers. Did you read the post? You seem to feel attacked when nothing I said pertained to you. If you're defensive maybe you have a problem with things in your life, but from what you're saying your soon to be hubby seems like a great guy. Congrats on the wedding!

Quoting braezmommy89:

Ok....so this post does apply to me.... or my df rather.



Quoting meganisamom:

I do think people should be married before they have kids. I came from unmarried parents and it always bugged me. And I do think men that have numerous kids with numerous women are irresponsible. The best place to raise a child is in a home with two loving parents.





Quoting braezmommy89:

I guess the way I read it was wrong.







I took it as you think men who have numerous children with numerous women are scum, and that you should marry before having children..







Quoting meganisamom:

Ok. Awesome. So why the ummmm? You're obviously not what this post was referring to.









Quoting braezmommy89:

Ummmm...











My df (dh in 5 days) has 5 other children, 4 from his ex wife, 1 of which isnt biologically his but he has raised him and continues to, and finally my two..











He bustes his ass EVERYDAY to care for ALL of his children and make sure we all had what we needed & wanted.. He has & contiues to provide and protect for us.











He had a brain hemmorage(sp) Oct 16th 2011 & since then has had 4 strokes. His Dr told him last Tuesday, he cant return to work (he is a BPO) for Multiple reasons.. Seizures, Strokes, and headaches as a result from the brain bleed..





Even tho god has thrown this at us, he STILL has provided and protected us, all of his children have what they need and then some!!











I have self respect, and im proud of my soo to be hubby!! He could of said "eff it" to his son whn he divorced his ex because hes not technically his but he didnt, he could have gave up when he had his brain hemmorage last Oct but he didnt..





He loves me & all of our kids & continues to do his very best for all of us..












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nicole2884
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:25 PM
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i totally agree with you, i was in one of those relationships before dh , an that pos taught me to never settle for less, i sought out to marry a  man who was real, sweet , caring , had a steady job, education an no kids , an that is who i married 

i think that there are so few good men that we settle, when you keep running into the same type of guy you think well there is no one better out there, so im gonna take what i can get

women stay with abusive men because they are stuck in the past , they live in the past , well he was a nice guy he is just going through a rough patch it well get better, NOOOO NOO IT WONT

PEOPLE DONT CHANGE OVERALL they may change small things but character an values dont change 

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